Hello hello – How are you today? It is close to Easter, and I wanted to come and say a quick hello to you all. Easter can be a fun time full of good memories for people who have not been abused in ritualistic cults. People who have an RA history might not be feeling so wonderful right about now. Do you have any scared child parts right now? Do you relate to that big picture up … [Read more...]
Expressing Anger Instead of Pain
Every now and then, Dr. Paul Weston (Gabriel Byrne) from HBO's series, "In Treatment" comes out with a good line, full of depth, and accurate to the therapy process. In one of the episodes I saw this week, Dr. Weston says, "Is it easier to be angry with me than to look at your own pain?" His client was throwing all kinds of angry jabs at him when clearly she was angry, upset, and miserable about her own … [Read more...]
Getting Back Those Lost, Missing Chunks of Time
Many dissociative trauma survivors have issues with time. Sometimes the past sneaks up into the present. Sometimes the present disappears. Sometimes there are two time zones (or more) occurring at the same time. Sometimes there are huge gaps in time. Sometimes time stands still. It can be confusing to say the least. Have you ever had a flashback from some year gone by overwhelm your current … [Read more...]
Using Collage as a Way of Communicating
Creating a collage is another way of allowing your internal system parts to tell more about themselves. Pictures can be a powerful way of communicating. And a collage - a collection of pictures - can tell a lifetime of stories. Most trauma survivors were repeatedly told by their abusers, "Do not tell". Violence, threats, abuse, and pain often accompanied these rules. How many times did you hear "don't say … [Read more...]