So why is it so hard to stop self-injury? I mean, there are pages and pages of good distraction techniques out there in the world. Fifty really good ideas were mentioned in previous blog posts. Shouldn't that be enough to make it stop? For many people, it is not. Why is it so very very difficult to change self-destructive behavior? Why do people hurt themselves? "Why can't I stop hurting myself?" I've been … [Read more...]
Working with Difficult and Destructive Alters
I'm going to take a slight detour in the internal communication series and write a little about working with difficult alters (aka insiders, inners, system parts, inside people, etc). It is crucial to work with these internal parts, no matter how challenging and hopeless things seem in the beginning. Your therapy and healing will never be resolved unless you approach the issues connected with these difficult … [Read more...]