It’s Father’s Day. Fathers. Fathers are as difficult a topic for dissociative trauma survivors as mothers. I decided I would recognize this day by writing briefly about a few of the common but complicated topics connected to fathers. I can feel the shuddering going on already. How difficult are these situations for you? A. Saying no to your father According to childhood rules, it’s really not … [Read more...]
I Just don’t Understand Perpetrators!
*** This is a difficult post and it is meant for your older parts. Please note -- it could be triggering to many within your system. Please check this article with your internal leaders before letting your littles or sensitive ones read any further. Thanks, Kathy. *** Recently, I witnessed a fight between some wild animals that was particularly upsetting to see. There is no need to go into great detail about … [Read more...]
Doubly Difficult Days for DID Survivors
This weekend is often a difficult weekend for trauma survivors with dissociative identity disorder. First, there is Father’s Day (for those of us living in the USA), and secondly, it’s the Summer Solstice. Anytime the difficult days get stacked on top of each other, it’s going to make for a complicated time. On days when the issues seem to surface in layers, what do you do to cope? **This blog article is … [Read more...]
Externalizing Responsibility vs. Internalizing Responsibility
Externalizing Responsibility What an interesting phrase. Externalizing responsibility is when someone fails to accept personal responsibility for the messes they make or for the problems they cause. It is also failing to accept personal responsibility for the situations they find themselves in. Internalizing responsibility is personally taking on the responsibility for what happens (in the past, present, … [Read more...]
Attachment to the Perpetrator
Recently, I saw another television documentary on Jaycee Lee Dugard - the young woman who was kidnapped at age 11, held captive for 18 years, and found alive, along with her two daughters on August 26, 2009. Jaycee is now about 40 years old. Jaycee spent 18 years held captive in the backyard of a registered, violent sex offender, Phillip Garrido. Garrido fathered Jaycee's two daughters, and has been … [Read more...]