It’s Father’s Day. Father's Day is all about those endearing, positive, caring fathers. But what about the abusive fathers? Fathers. Yep, fathers are as difficult a topic for dissociative trauma survivors as mothers. Fathers often are heavily involved in the trauma history for dissociative survivors. Most DID survivors I know have far too many painful memories involving their fathers. I decided I … [Read more...]
A Painful Mother’s Day – the Cards Not Written
Last week, I couldn’t find the words to write about the struggles that so many dissociative survivors have on Mother’s Day. Sometimes, Mother's Day is a very painful day. In response to that, a dissociative survivor emailed me, and has given me permission to post their thoughts about the painful side of Mother’s Day. Maybe you will relate to these difficult thoughts and painful feelings. Every … [Read more...]
Momma Larks – A Job Well Done
Mothers. Mothers are a difficult topic. Mother's Day is a difficult day. Complicated. Painful. Often a day of loss and grieving. A day that many dissociative survivors don’t want to think about. Ouch. If only…. If only, if only….. I’ve been thinking about these things all week, knowing I would / should write something about mothers. Hmmmmm…. I wasn’t sure which angle to talk about…. Then I … [Read more...]
What do you think about Suicide?
Suicide is a difficult topic. All too many trauma survivors feel drawn to it. Mental health professionals fight against it. Insurance companies dismiss it. Religions disagree about it. The world out there doesn’t know how to interpret it. The world does not know how to talk about it. It’s controversial and complex. There are no simple answers. Who’s to blame for it? The … [Read more...]
Developing Internal Communication – Starting with the Basics
There are a variety of ways to develop basic, effective skills in internal communication with your dissociative system. Most of these skills are very similar, even the same, as the communication skills used with real people in the everyday world. There is no fancy trick to learning to talk to your inside people. Everyone can do this. Remember, it's like talking to other people. Have you … [Read more...]