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When the Painful Past is the Painful Present

By Kathy Broady MSW 64 Comments

  Hello, how are you today?  Are you reading from your painful past, or are you here, in a painful present?  Does it feel like the here-and-now?  Or the way back when?  Or is Then the same as Now? I've been thinking about this topic of Past vs Present for awhile now.  I know I have written about time distortion, memory recall, flashbacks, body memories, trauma processing and all those things before.  (Please … [Read more...]

Filed Under: Child Alters, DID Education, DID/MPD, Dissociative Identity Disorder, emotional pain, Fear, Trauma Tagged With: Bad Days, Body Memories, DID / MPD, Disorders, Dissociation, dissociative, Dissociative Identity Disorder, Dreams, Flashbacks, Health, Hurting, Kathy, Kathy Broady, Memories, Memory Recall, mental health, Nightmares, pain, Put the past in the past, Time, Time Distortion, Trauma, Trauma Processing

A Painful Mother’s Day – the Cards Not Written

By Kathy Broady MSW 40 Comments

  Last week, I couldn’t find the words to write about the struggles that so many dissociative survivors have on Mother’s Day.  Sometimes, Mother's Day is a very painful day. In response to that, a dissociative survivor emailed me, and has given me permission to post their thoughts about the painful side of Mother’s Day. Maybe you will relate to these difficult thoughts and painful feelings.   Every … [Read more...]

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Let Sleeping Dogs Lie – or not?!

By Kathy Broady MSW 18 Comments

Let sleeping dogs lie…. We’ve all heard the phrase said over and over.   It means to leave something the way it is because disturbing it would cause more trouble or additional complications.  Fine, fine, fine.  Maybe for today, I’ll not address the troublemakers in life.  Heaven knows, I’ve run into more than enough of my fair share of dogs that lie….  But ok, I’ll respect the wisdom of the phrase and for now, I … [Read more...]

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With Darkness and Depression, is there Anything to be Thankful For?

By Kathy Broady MSW 18 Comments

      Thanksgiving is the time to be thankful for what we have, for the people in our lives, for the food and shelter that we have, and for the lives we have had.  It is meant to be a good holiday, with time to relax, watch the Macy’s Day parade, cheer for our favorite football team, have an incredible meal, go to movies, chatter with close friends and family, enjoy freedom and all the goodness of … [Read more...]

Filed Under: Depression, DID Education, emotional pain, mental health, Therapy and Counseling, Therapy Homework Ideas Tagged With: Alone, Anxiety, Appreciation, Black Friday, Children and Youth, Cleaning, Darkness, Depression, DID Survivors, dissociative disorders, Dissociative Identity Disorder, emotional pain, God, Gratitude, Hoarding, Holiday, Hurting, Kathy Broady, Macy's Day Parade, Macy's Thanksgiving Day Parade, Sadistic Abusers, Thankfulness, Thanksgiving, Trauma Survivors, Wounded

Turning Self-Injury into Self-Soothing

By Kathy Broady MSW 70 Comments

  Self-injury is a problem all too common for trauma survivors with Dissociative Identity Disorder (DID / MPD) or Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD).  For that matter, self-injury (SI) is an issue for other populations of people as well.  This discussion will focus more on the effects of trauma and abuse and how self-injury can be addressed effectively.  However, because self-injury is actually a very … [Read more...]

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