Hey, how are you today? I've been thinking about this topic of Past vs Present for awhile now. I know I have written about time distortion, memory recall, flashbacks, body memories, trauma processing and all those things before. (Please have a peek at the List of All Articles page.) Even so, a few more comments about such a difficult topic is still warranted. The point is, this stuff just doesn't … [Read more...]
A Painful Mother’s Day – the Cards Not Written
Last week, I couldn’t find the words to write about the struggles that so many dissociative survivors have on Mother’s Day. In response to that, a dissociative survivor emailed me, and has given me permission to post their thoughts about the painful side of Mother’s Day. Maybe you will relate to these difficult thoughts and painful feelings. Every year on Mother’s Day we as a society get … [Read more...]
Let Sleeping Dogs Lie – or not?!
Let sleeping dogs lie…. We’ve all heard the phrase said over and over. It means to leave something the way it is because disturbing it would cause more trouble or additional complications. Fine, fine, fine. Maybe for today, I’ll not address the troublemakers in life. Heaven knows, I’ve run into more than enough of my fair share of dogs that lie…. But ok, I’ll respect the wisdom of the phrase and for now, I … [Read more...]
With Darkness and Depression, is there Anything to be Thankful For?
Thanksgiving is the time to be thankful for what we have, for the people in our lives, for the food and shelter that we have, and for the lives we have had. It is meant to be a good holiday, with time to relax, watch the Macy’s Day parade, cheer for our favorite football team, have an incredible meal, go to movies, chatter with close friends and family, enjoy freedom and all the goodness of … [Read more...]
Turning Self-Injury into Self-Soothing
Self-injury is a problem all too common for trauma survivors with Dissociative Identity Disorder (DID / MPD) or Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD). For that matter, self-injury (SI) is an issue for other populations of people as well. This discussion will focus more on the effects of trauma and abuse and how self-injury can be addressed effectively. However, because self-injury is actually a very … [Read more...]