Something about heartbreak totally changes a person. Repeated heartbreak. Changes your life. I’m not sure I can put words to it yet, but I know it happens. Depression. Sadness. Loss. Grief. Pain. It consumes your thoughts, your mind, your time. What hurts the most? Abandonment? Abuse? Neglect? Betrayal? Dishonesty? Physical pain? Sexual trauma? Aloneness? I … [Read more...]
Split Decisions
When you have Dissociative Identity Disorder (DID or DID/MPD), and you’re thinking as a multiple personality -- thus having a multitude of different thoughts at once time -- it can be very difficult to make decisions. How do survivors with DID ever make up their minds? How do survivors with DID decide whose opinion to follow? How do survivors with DID ever decide what is best for … [Read more...]
What do you think about Suicide?
Suicide is a difficult topic. All too many trauma survivors feel drawn to it. Mental health professionals fight against it. Insurance companies dismiss it. Religions disagree about it. The world out there doesn’t know how to interpret it. The world does not know how to talk about it. It’s controversial and complex. There are no simple answers. Who’s to blame for it? The … [Read more...]
Holidays for DID Trauma Survivors… Making it Nice for the Littles
I hope you are all having a good holiday season..... I had hoped to post these thoughts a couple days back, but unfortunately, I didn’t have the chance until now. And even though it’s the day after Christmas, I still want to approach the topic. I’m proposing that it’s not too late to make a difference this year. In my experience, from listening through the years, holidays are typically very difficult times for … [Read more...]
Therapy for Dissociative Trauma Survivors
What is therapy? What is a therapist? What is the therapy process? And how can you tell if they’re any good? What is therapy? In my experience, therapy is about speaking the unspeakable. It’s the telling of things that you haven’t had the safety or the opportunity to tell before. It’s expressing your deepest feelings without have to edit or omit or pretend for the sake of someone … [Read more...]