Hello, hello, It's getting closer to Halloween, and as October happens, I'm quite sure that many of you are struggling with trauma memories, flashbacks, body memories, and the whole range of PTSD symptoms after experiencing trauma and abuse. Sometimes it feels like the trauma will never end! But it does. I promise you, it does end. It can end, and it does end. You haven't lived forever so the … [Read more...]
When the Painful Past is the Painful Present
Hello, how are you today? Are you reading from your painful past, or are you here, in a painful present? Does it feel like the here-and-now? Or the way back when? Or is Then the same as Now? I've been thinking about this topic of Past vs Present for awhile now. I know I have written about time distortion, memory recall, flashbacks, body memories, trauma processing and all those things before. (Please … [Read more...]
Three Difficult Scenarios involving Father
It’s Father’s Day. Fathers. Fathers are as difficult a topic for dissociative trauma survivors as mothers. I decided I would recognize this day by writing briefly about a few of the common but complicated topics connected to fathers. I can feel the shuddering going on already. How difficult are these situations for you? A. Saying no to your father According to childhood rules, it’s really not … [Read more...]
Happy Easter – If not now, then soon.
Hello hello – How are you today? It is close to Easter, and I wanted to come and say a quick hello to you all. Easter can be a fun time full of good memories for people who have not been abused in ritualistic cults. People who have an RA history might not be feeling so wonderful right about now. Do you have any scared child parts right now? Do you relate to that big picture up … [Read more...]
A Double-Sided Halloween Weekend
It’s Halloween weekend again -- a season full of flashbacks and trauma for many dissociative trauma survivors. It feels dark. It feels scary. In some ways, it's the worst time of the year, and if this is the case, the flashbacks are pretty horrific. So......... let's do a less scary flashback with this article. Think back to 2010. That year, back in 2010, I was reminded of the dichotomy our society … [Read more...]