Continuing with the topic of Internal Communication, I ended the previous article, Overcoming Instability Issues and Unsuccessful Memory work with this list of Dissoci-ACTION steps: Focus first on relationship building with your parts. Get to know them. Talk to them. Learn their names. Overcome your fears of who they are. Appreciate their strengths. Develop friendships with them. I … [Read more...]
Overcoming Instability Issues and Unsuccessful Memory Work
Kerro commented: I have a question about stability. I accept that I need to be reliable, motivated, responsible and willing to delve into things I generally don't want to delve into. As for stability - I can see how a stable client is easier to work with for a therapist. However, what if the beginning stages of therapy have resurfaced old issues or retraumatised the client to the extent that … [Read more...]
25 Ways to Avoid Self-Injury and Prevent Self-Harm
Survivors of sexual abuse often struggle with self-injury (SI). Survivors often use dissociative walls to contain and separate intense emotions from themselves. This allows them to stay numb, and to not feel. They can split off their unmanageable, uncomfortable, or conflicting feelings into other parts of themselves, as frequently seen in Dissociative Identity Disorder (DID/MPD). As those dissociative walls … [Read more...]
10 Qualities Therapists Recognize in Good Clients, part 2
Hello, I hope this day finds you doing well. The first part of this article certainly caused a little stir, and maybe raised a few eyebrows along the way. Please know, my intention in posting these blogs is not to offend anyone. If you have any questions or concerns about anything I've posted, please comment and let me know what you're thinking! And here's a big Thank You! to the folks who did comment to the … [Read more...]
Blocking Therapy vs. Therapeutic Mismatch
Let's start with Castorgirl's comment to the article "Therapy for Trauma Survivors": Hi Kathy, An interesting post. It raises many issues that have been a struggle over the last three years of therapy… The question whenever things don’t seem to be going well in therapy always seems to come back to - “Is this our fault?” Are we sabotaging our own recovery, misinterpreting what has been said or … [Read more...]