Happy Holiday Greetings! I hope you have had a great holiday season so far. My hope is that you are making these days as beautiful and special for yourself as you can. There are lots of ways to provide Christmas cheer for your DID system, even if you are in a rough spot. Please read through this blog if you don't know what I'm talking about. Holidays are not always fun … [Read more...]
10 Reasons Why it’s Hard to Leave Perpetrators and Abusers
Leaving the perpetrators. Separating from the bad guys. Putting distance between yourself and the person / persons who are hurting you, no matter who they are. This is a huge topic in the treatment process for most dissociative trauma survivors. Safety. Obtaining safety from the people who are hurting your mind, body, soul, and spirit. Dissociative trauma survivors who had an entire childhood entangled … [Read more...]
20 Types of Dissociative Splits
It always amazes me when dissociative trauma survivors tell me that after they've met three or four of their inside alters (or maybe even a few more than that, but not many), that they think they've met everyone in their system. They think they don't have that many dissociative splits in their DID system, or they think that they are "done" meeting their insiders. That never makes sense to me. Oh, I … [Read more...]
Being Hated, Feeling Hated, Overcoming Self-Hatred
Practically every dissociative trauma survivor that I have spoken to has said to me that at some point in time or another, they have felt hated, truly hated. What's worse, they didn't feel hated by strangers -- they felt hated by their loved ones. These trauma survivors felt hated by their mothers, their fathers, their siblings, their spouses, their children, their friends. They felt hatred from the … [Read more...]
Split Decisions
When you have Dissociative Identity Disorder (DID or DID/MPD), and you’re thinking as a multiple personality -- thus having a multitude of different thoughts at once time -- it can be very difficult to make decisions. How do survivors with DID ever make up their minds? How do survivors with DID decide whose opinion to follow? How do survivors with DID ever decide what is best for … [Read more...]