Are there any benefits to being multiple? In the typical process of trauma therapy, your therapist and the dissociative trauma survivor will spend a great deal of time talking about how difficult it is to be multiple -- and it is difficult, no doubt about it. For the typical multiple, there were years and years of pain and horror and abuse requiring the need to split over and over into a number of … [Read more...]
Lack of Acceptance of Dissociative Parts and Their Life Histories
Many trauma survivors with DID, especially those relatively new in the treatment process, often have difficulty accepting that there are "other people inside your head." The ideas of losing time (including big chunks of time), losing control of yourself and your mind or your body, having a limited awareness of what has happened in your life, sharing your life with a bunch of others of all different ages, and … [Read more...]
Do You Believe Everything you Read?
Do you believe everything you read? Do you believe everything you hear? I realize "inquiring minds want to know" and gossip can seem initially enticing, but seriously, how much credence do you give to what other people have to say about anything? How do you decide the difference between a credible source and a shoddy source? How can you tell when you are being manipulated or tricked? What critical … [Read more...]
Dissociative Trauma Survivors – Must You Be Alone?
Are you alone? Oh, what a tough and painful topic this one is. All too many dissociative survivors are alone. Alone with their pain. Alone with their memories. Alone within their system. Alone in relationships. Alone in a crowded room. Far too many dissociative survivors feel painfully alone. Isolated. Alienated. Separated from others. There are actually a few trauma survivors that genuinely … [Read more...]
Emotional Intensity, Safety and Memory Work
Here is a quote from my article "Overcoming Instability Issues and Unsuccessful Memory Work": "If you cannot speak, in your normal voice, discussing your trauma memories from the safety of the here-and-now while still connected in the present, then don't even try to address your memories. It is too soon." It has come to my attention that I need to expand on these statements. A. Your … [Read more...]
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