So you're depressed, and you're DID. That feels like a double whammy already, so what do you do now? Depression and DID go hand in hand for many trauma survivors. They are not the same diagnosis, but can be closely knitted together. When you are DID, you might have some parts that are depressed, while simultaneously having other parts that are not depressed. Dissociative walls and amnesiac barriers can … [Read more...]
When a Perpetrator Dies….
Oh my goodness..... What were you doing on this day..... ? Flashing back to several years ago ...... **** Did you experience the social earthquake today? The sudden death of Michael Jackson today has caught everyone by surprise. Will he be more remembered as the King of Pop? Or will he be forever remembered as a suspected and accused child molester? Everyone will have … [Read more...]
Believing a Lie – the Foundation of Dissociation
What makes it difficult for trauma survivors with Dissociative Identity Disorder to know the truth? How easy is it to trick someone with DID with a lie? When are survivors lying to themselves? When does dissociation block out information to know the difference? When does pain, especially emotional pain, become the deciding factor in what survivors believe, regardless of truth? When does the viciousness … [Read more...]
12 Tips for Reducing Shame
Need some tips for reducing shame? One of the hardest areas of healing work in trauma disorders is dealing with shame. For many survivors of sexual abuse, healing work involves learning about a lot of intense memories that leave them feeling a great deal of shame, humiliation, and embarrassment. These are difficult emotions to process, and the memory material is typically very overwhelming. Some survivors … [Read more...]
Now I have lost my father…
“So thanks to all of this therapy, I have lost my father.” “You haven’t lost your father….You did lose the father that you thought you had…” “OK, I get it. I didn’t have the perfect dad…. And my therapy has successfully shattered my romanticized image of my narcissistic father. Is that how you would say it?” “I would say, the patient, born to a depressed mother, idealized her father so as to not feel completely … [Read more...]