I've written a fair bit about childhood sexual abuse. Children are young, small, and without resources. Grasping the innocence of those children is easily seen and understood. As adults, trauma survivors can more easily grasp the complex dynamics of being forced into abusive dynamics when still a small, young child. But for some folks, trauma and abuse doesn't stop in childhood. It may have started in childhood, … [Read more...]
10 Comforting and Corrective Truths for Childhood Sexual Abuse Survivors
Every survivor of childhood sexual abuse (CSA) that I know has a lot of enormously difficult days when they struggle desperately with feeling bad, feeling lousy, feeling at fault, feeling pain. Those struggles can last for years. Healing does come, but on those difficult days, remember what is true. When the hard days come, it might be hard to remember... It was not okay that anyone touched your body … [Read more...]
Protective Mothers who Fight for their Children
This blog article is a tribute to the mothers out there in the world that have spent huge chunks of their lives fighting for the safety / healing of their children. These women are incredible spirits and are an inspiration to us all. I know mothers who have absolutely gone the distance for their children. These women don’t get thanked often, but I do want to let them know that they are appreciated, recognized and … [Read more...]
Mothers and Mothers Day for Trauma Survivors
For dissociative trauma survivors, Mothers Day is often a painful time. For survivors with Dissociative Identity Disorder, mother issues are usually complex and difficult to sort out. Momma-trauma comes in a variety of forms. So many, many different kinds of Momma trauma. That in itself is so very sad. Here are three possibilities to consider. For some survivors, their mothers were … [Read more...]
Abandonment — A Painful, Tender Hurt for Dissociative Trauma Survivors
Abandonment is such a tender issue for trauma survivors. Most survivors with Dissociative Identity Disorder (DID/MPD) and Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) have had more than their fair share of genuine abandonment instances. For severe trauma survivors, abandonment would have been experienced over and over in various situations: Each time your parents or caregivers turned a blind eye to the sexual abuse … [Read more...]