Have you just discovered that you are multiple? Do you have new insiders surfacing and creating havoc? Is this a tough time of year for you? Are you feeling highly triggered right now? Is your system struggling, feeling dark, chaotic, and separated? Are you experiencing memories, flashbacks, nightmares, and other PTSD symptoms? For the dissociative survivor, the process of healing from severe … [Read more...]
Happy Holiday Greetings, and Ending those Unhappy Holidays
Happy Holiday Greetings! I hope you have had a great holiday season so far. My hope is that you are making these days as beautiful and special for yourself as you can. There are lots of ways to provide Christmas cheer for your DID system, even if you are in a rough spot. Please read through this blog if you don't know what I'm talking about. There are lots of articles that have ideas for FUN stuff. … [Read more...]
The Emotional Container of Abuse
Emotional abuse. This is a complicated topic. It's a topic I've tried to explain to many dissociative trauma survivors many many times. The concept of emotional abuse can be hard to grasp. This is because the trauma survivor often internalizes the perpetrator's offensive verbage, believing it to be true. But it's not true. Not at all. In this article, I will describe one example of the dynamic of a … [Read more...]
Kathy’s Video Comments re: 10 Truths for Adult Survivors of Sexual Abuse
Hey - hello hello today, I'm trying some new things, and I have made a short video of myself talking about the last blog entry. This video is specifically for adult survivors of sexual abuse. 10 Truths for Adult Survivors of Sexual Abuse These are big brave steps for me to put myself out on a video. All disclaimers needed! I'm very new at making simple home-made videos, so there's no fancy tricks, … [Read more...]
The Layers of Halloween Weekend
It’s Halloween weekend. This is a difficult, heavy weekend for a lot of dissociative trauma survivors. I’ll say right upfront – and please hear this clearly -- that it is NOT a difficult or triggery weekend for every DID trauma survivor. To assume that every dissociative survivor has experienced the same kinds of abuse is completely wrong, and I will be the first trauma therapist to say that not everyone … [Read more...]