Once upon a time, my little boy grew up. He grew, and he grew, and he grew until he was big enough to live by himself. Then that day came.... That terrible horrible lousy no-good day when I had to help my son move into his own place. Gosh. I really dreaded that day. It was a lot of work. There were boxes upon boxes to haul, big pieces of furniture to carry, bags of fresh groceries to buy, cabinets to … [Read more...]
Mothers and Mother’s Day for Trauma Survivors
For dissociative trauma survivors, Mother’s Day is often a painful time. For survivors with Dissociative Identity Disorder, mother issues are usually complex and difficult to sort out. Momma-trauma comes in a variety of forms. For some survivors, their mothers were simply not there to protect them from the violent abuse of the perpetrator, including the father or other sadistic … [Read more...]
Prevention of Sexual Abuse – What helps?
To all the Trauma Survivors Reading this blog – I have some questions for you. What kinds of things do you wish your parents had been able to do that would have protected you from sexual abuse? What kinds of things would have helped prevent your being abused by people outside of the home? If you were abused within the home, what would have helped you to get help from safe people … [Read more...]
Emotional Intensity, Safety and Memory Work
Here is a quote from my article "Overcoming Instability Issues and Unsuccessful Memory Work": "If you cannot speak, in your normal voice, discussing your trauma memories from the safety of the here-and-now while still connected in the present, then don't even try to address your memories. It is too soon." It has come to my attention that I need to expand on these statements. A. Your … [Read more...]
When It’s Dark and Scary on the Inside…
Trauma survivors with Dissociative Identity Disorder can see an internal world. Step back, turn around an look inside - it will be there. What happens if you have looked inside and all you see is a lot of darkness, or desolation, and not so many people with welcome arms? First of all, think about what internal darkness means to you as an individual. There are a variety of … [Read more...]