Dissociative trauma survivors need emotional support. However, this can be difficult to achieve. As the show, "United States of Tara" is gradually starting to demonstrate, survivors with Dissociative Identity Disorder have friends and family members that offer varying levels of support: Those that find dissociative trauma survivors to be really good, kind, decent, and wonderful people, and will stand by them … [Read more...]
Current Day Abuse – When Dissociative Survivors are Trapped, Owned, and Exploited as Adults
Dissociative Identity Disorder is created from severe, chronic child abuse, but does that abuse automatically stop in childhood? Unfortunately, no, it does not. All too many survivors continue to be trapped in abusive environments long after their childhood has ended. Sometimes this abuse continues with the same family-related perpetrators that abused the survivor all throughout the childhood … [Read more...]
Denial — Does it help? Or does it hurt?
To any dissociative trauma survivor weighing heavy in denial.... Denial.... SO important for your years of survival.... SO very very crucial for maintaining your education, functionality, employment... Denial.... important, so very powerful... covers up the amnesia What time loss? Has anyone lost time? Denial... covers up the pain covers up the horror covers up the … [Read more...]
Prevention of Sexual Abuse – What helps?
To all the Trauma Survivors Reading this blog – I have some questions for you. What kinds of things do you wish your parents had been able to do that would have protected you from sexual abuse? What kinds of things would have helped prevent your being abused by people outside of the home? If you were abused within the home, what would have helped you to get help from safe people … [Read more...]
Emotional Intensity, Safety and Memory Work
Here is a quote from my article "Overcoming Instability Issues and Unsuccessful Memory Work": "If you cannot speak, in your normal voice, discussing your trauma memories from the safety of the here-and-now while still connected in the present, then don't even try to address your memories. It is too soon." It has come to my attention that I need to expand on these statements. A. Your … [Read more...]