Inspirational Leader My dad was a very kind man. He was strong. He was solid. He had very settled views about life. He wasn't afraid to stand for what he believed, even if people didn't agree with him. I learned much from him, and even now, some time after his passing, I reflect more and more about the ways he taught me how to live. My father was an innovator. He was creative. He started new groups for … [Read more...]
What is a Perpetrator Introject in a Dissociative DID System?
Introjects. Working with introjects in a dissociative system is an incredibly difficult but absolutely important part of your healing. It might feel a bit triggery to learn about these insiders in your system because of what they are attached to, but it's massively important to address them, especially if you'd like to achieve system harmony, internal cohesion and an overall sense of healing and … [Read more...]
The Emotional Container of Abuse
Emotional abuse. This is a complicated topic. It's a topic I've tried to explain to many dissociative trauma survivors many many times. The concept of emotional abuse can be hard to grasp. This is because the trauma survivor often internalizes the perpetrator's offensive verbage, believing it to be true. But it's not true. Not at all. In this article, I will describe one example of the dynamic of a … [Read more...]
10 Truths for Adult Survivors of Sexual Abuse
I've written a fair bit about childhood sexual abuse. Children are young, small, and without resources. Grasping the innocence of those children is easily seen and understood. As adults, trauma survivors can more easily grasp the complex dynamics of being forced into abusive dynamics when still a small, young child. But for some folks, trauma and abuse doesn't stop in childhood. It may have started in childhood, … [Read more...]
Why Can’t I Stop Hurting Myself? 12 Thoughts about That
So why is it so hard to stop self-injury? I mean, there are pages and pages of good distraction techniques out there in the world. Fifty really good ideas were mentioned in previous blog posts. Shouldn't that be enough to make it stop? For many people, it is not. Why is it so very very difficult to change self-destructive behavior? Why do people hurt themselves? "Why can't I stop hurting myself?" I've been … [Read more...]