On those really tough days, remember that it's much better to do self-soothing than self-injuring. You've been hurt too much already. Give yourself the permission to feel better through gentle, comforting, soft experiences. Leave the violence alone. Decide to be kind to yourself and your insiders instead. How? Keep reading the article below for lots of helpful ideas. I wish you the best in your healing … [Read more...]
The Heaviness of Darkness
When darkness sits on people, it can really sit on them. And squish them down. And remove all joy, love, beauty from their lives. Or for those with Dissociative Identity Disorder, the dark side of the system can completely flip over the top, dominating the other sides of the system. The dark ones are in control. DID survivors, split and torn by years of traumatic darkness, pain, and heartbreak. When … [Read more...]
Why Can’t I Stop Hurting Myself? 12 Thoughts about That
So why is it so hard to stop self-injury? I mean, there are pages and pages of good distraction techniques out there in the world. Fifty really good ideas were mentioned in previous blog posts. Shouldn't that be enough to make it stop? For many people, it is not. Why is it so very very difficult to change self-destructive behavior? Why do people hurt themselves? "Why can't I stop hurting myself?" I've been … [Read more...]
Mind Control Programming Basics II: The Emotional Roots
Hello hello, Several people have asked me to write about mind control / programming and the undoing of those hidden but oh-so-powerful things. I have written some but the articles written on the Rocking Complacency Blog provide some of the very best and clearest writings about the undoing of mind control -- much better than I could write. It only makes sense to bring these writings here, and into view for … [Read more...]
Turning Self-Injury into Self-Soothing
Self-injury is a problem all too common for trauma survivors with Dissociative Identity Disorder (DID / MPD) or Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD). For that matter, self-injury (SI) is an issue for other populations of people as well. This discussion will focus more on the effects of trauma and abuse and how self-injury can be addressed effectively. However, because self-injury is actually a very … [Read more...]