Today, is 10 Terrific Years of Discussing Dissociation Day !!
Wow wow wow!
I can’t even believe it!
How is that possible, and where has all the time gone??!!
This is a big day for me. It feels amazing, exciting, wonderful, and all kinds of incredible. I’m just astounded that we’ve carried on this long and gone this far together! So let’s have fun today. I have been thinking about this, and I have some ideas to suggest. I’ll give you a hint though….. It’s going to be all about 10.!
“10 this, 10 that!” You’re gonna be tired of me saying 10!
For fun, and of course, for some helpful benefits as well, I’m going to give you 10 challenges. We’ll see which ones you can do — you don’t HAVE to do these challenges, of course, but maybe some of them will be fun. Oh, and of course, there is no time limit, so if you wanna do all 10 of them, go for it!
Challenge 1:
In the comments below — or in an email, if you want privacy — please tell me 10 words that you would use to describe Discussing Dissociation. 10 simple words (or phrases if you need to), but preferably 10 words.
This is a cool way to get your thoughts and feedback, and I’m always interested in your opinions, too.
Challenge 2:
IF you know your favorite article here, or up to your favorite 10 articles here, please let me know which articles YOU like the best. You can list them in the comments section below OR simply post a new comment on the article of your choosing, and let me know THAT’s the article you like.
I’ve been thinking about this for myself as well, and this is a difficult challenge! As you know, there are over 400 articles to choose from. How do you ever pick your top 10?
Challenge 3:
Say hello, or welcome, or post a reply comment to 10 different other readers this week.
A few months ago, I challenged myself to post to or email 100 different blog readers, and that’s been super good to do. I believe it is important to purposefully reach out to a variety of folks, especially to folks who are rather new to me. I have a chart of everyone I wrote to during my 100-post challenge for myself. If you’ve heard from me over the past few months, your name is probably on my chart!
So…. I pass that baton to you now, only how about you make sure to post to 10 different readers in this community. It might just make their day to hear from you!
And…. I have to say, I think it is SUPER COOL that we reached our 10,000 comments right before the 10th year party. How cool is THAT??!! I really love how much we communicate with each other as a community. It’s just fantastic to see, and I hope it keeps growing and growing and growing!
Challenge 4:
Do you have anyone in your system who is 10 years old? I would specific love to hear from the other 10-year olds out there! Please write a comment, or send an email, or send in a little note from the Contact page. ALL the 10-year olds around here are welcome to join in the fun and say hi!
We can make this a Happy 10-year old party for ALL the 10-year olds! Hi hi hi hi and hi to everyone and anyone who is 10 years old today too! How are you, and what stuff do you like? Please tell me how your day is going — I’d like to hear from you!
I hope that being 10 years old is as happy for you as it is for me and this blog! 🙂
Challenge 5:
And…. in honor of this Terrific 10 Time, I also want to challenge your entire DID system to do something specifically nice and kind for your 10-year olds this week. If you don’t have a 10-year old, pick another group of young ones who are approximately 10 years old.
What can you do with your 10-year old? First… make sure their basic needs are met. You know — I talk about this all the time. Make sure they have something tasty to eat, and something healthy to eat, and plenty of fresh water to drink, or maybe chocolate milk, or apple juice or a smoothie. Anything that is tasty for 10-year olds to enjoy, and yet healthy enough to have!
Also, make sure your 10-years old have clean, fresh, comfortable clothing on. So many little ones are still in their grungy dirty clothes, so … for our Terrific 10’s, let’s double check to make sure they have proper clothing on. AND… for that matter, you could let them have something extra fun to wear this week! Maybe they get some fun new silly socks, or maybe they get a new sweatshirt to stay warm, or maybe they can have a funny hat, or a new t-shirt. Just give your 10-year olds some extra consideration this week, and do a few extra good things for them.
And what fun, or recreational activities can your 10-year olds do this week? Can they watch their favorite TV show? Or maybe go to a new movie at the cinema theatre? Or ride their bike outside for awhile? Or go to the zoo? Or go play on skates or a skateboard? Maybe your 10-year olds like to read, and would like a new novel to read, or some new library books, or a new game to play?
Or maybe let your 10-year olds have some extra time in your therapy sessions this week. Maybe they have something to say too!
Or maybe they want to listen to the stories and the videos in the Saddest Little Bear Story Pack again. Don’t forget about that resource! Those videos can be fun and helpful for your kids, over and over and over again!
Challenge 6:
I like to use acronyms, and I have an article that explains a helpful process of using acronyms in therapeutic writing. So… let’s expand a little on Challenge 1 by creating Challenge 5. The word “Discussing” has 10 letters. So you know… that fits with my 10-theme of the day. The word “Dissociation” has 12 letters. So here’s the challenge:
Using the word Discussing as the main starting word, and do an Acronym based on the theme of “What topics would you like to discuss here on the blog, or in the DD Community Forum?”
If the word “Discussing” feels too short or limiting for you, use “Discussing Dissociation” as a combined phrase, and see what topics you can come up with that way.
The main goal of this exercise is to think about the topics that you need to talk about more, and maybe that will give me some ideas for new blog articles as well.
Challenge 7:
Discussing Dissociation uses the puzzle theme. I challenge you to put a puzzle together this week! For that matter, I challenge you to put 10 puzzles together this week! Of course, my first thoughts are about jigsaw puzzles, but there are lots of different kinds of puzzles available.
Let your little ones do a simple puzzle, and find harder puzzles for your older folks. There are lots of free puzzle games online as well. Just let your system have some fun, and I hope you think of Discussing Dissociation while you are playing. 🙂
Challenge 8:
Take 10 minutes every day this week to read various blog articles,
or 10 minutes to read any of the 10,000+ blog comments,
or 10 minutes to listen to the Discussing Dissociation videos.
If you spend 10 minutes here every day this week, you might see something new — something that you haven’t noticed before. Even if you feel like you have seen everything, ask someone deeper inside your system if they would like a 10 minute turn looking at the site. They may not have been around to see and read everything that you’ve seen and read.
And when you do see something new-to-you, please let the others in your system know about it! And it would be great if you let me know the new nooks and crannies you found while searching around. Sounds like a fun plan!
Challenge 9:
Can a blog get birthday presents? haha. That’s a funny concept, but that would just be cool. 😉
If Discussing Dissociation has been helpful for you and your system during the past 10 years, consider a one-time $10 “Support this Site” contribution as a way to literally, support this site!
Yes, yes, yes, I will continue to build and expand, and build and expand, and expand and build the resources we have here in this community, so yes! Your support is definitely appreciated. And any $10 gifts that arrive this month, I’ll definitely consider them to be Happy 10-Year Appreciation Presents from you.
OH — and so many many many thank you’s to those of you who have already contributed on the Support this Site option! I sincerely thank you for your participation in keeping this site alive and well!
Challenge 10:
And last, but not least ….. if Discussing Dissociation has been helpful for you and your system, I would certainly greatly appreciate it if you would share 10 links with your friends or your support team. Re-tweet 10 twitter posts, or share 10 Facebook posts, or forward 10 emails, or add 10 links to Discussing Dissociation out on other sites you visit, or share 10 video links, or share 10 Pinterest pins, or any combination of any of these ideas.
It means a lot to me for y’all to help share in spreading the word about how good we are doing here at Discussing Dissociation! Because you know … I think as a resource and as a community, we are doing AWESOME !!!
What a great team we are!
AFTER the Terrific 10 Year Day?? What’s Next?
Well…. what I can say is this has been an amazing start to another very busy 10 years to come! I’ve got more ideas than ever, and I have only begun to build the resources that I want to share with you.
Obviously, the Discussing Dissociation Community Forum is coming next !!
I reeeeeeeeallly wanted the Forum to be ready by today, but I just had a few too many things to juggle and those irritating internet interruptions, so unfortunately, I was unable to get it done by today. Gosh darn it! I am very disappointed with that, but I know that my team also wants to do a good job putting all the layers together correctly, and patience is important.
We are so so so so close.!! I will get the latest update from the computer gal soon, but I expect that Laura and I will be able to “test out” the forum by this weekend. And once we know that all is well, it will be available to you AS SOON AS POSSIBLE.
UPDATE: THE COMMUNITY FORUM IS READY!
Are you feeling lonely? Do you want to talk with people who understand a dissociative life?
If our friendly DID Forum Community sounds like a place where you want to be, YOU are invited to join the DDCF Community today.
It’s a good DID forum, it really is.
DDCF is open, available all day and night, and our friendly members are still chatting with each other, receiving support and interaction from the safety of their own homes.
What would you be willing to contribute as a DDCF Community Forum Member?
How would you grow? What relationships could you build, inside and out?
Click HERE for more information about joining our group TODAY.
After the Community Friendship Forum gets off the ground, the Premium Educational Forum will get started shortly thereafter. AND an additional forum for spouses, partners, and allies of trauma survivors.
The next little bear story, featuring ElleBear (pronounced Elly Bear) is already peeking around the corner as well.
I know there is interest in a new DID Survivor Artwork Series, so that’s high on my list.
And I have several other surprises I’ll just keep to myself for now, but know that I am working on a bunch of projects!
This site will definitely continue to grow and grow and grow, and let’s all say three loud cheers for another 10 years!
hip hip hooray!
hip hip hooray!
hip hip hooray!
I wish you the VERY best today — and THANK YOU for being here. Thank you for YEARS of being here. You truly mean the world to me. It wouldn’t matter how much I wrote or created if you weren’t coming here to be part of it, so you know… this site is having it’s 10th-year Happy Day because of you! Sooo much appreciation for you. 🙂
And as always, I wish you and all your insiders the very best in your healing journey.
Warmly,
Kathy
Copyright © 2008-2020 Kathy Broady MSW and Discussing Dissociation
Want to comment on the challenges but too scattered…too lost….too overwhelmed right now….glad others are able to step up….I just can’t step right now…….
MissMing
I’m sorry you are feeling scatters. It is never a good feeling when that happens. It is Sunday here in the USA. And the body been in bed all day. When Lori gets a migraine none of us are aloud to get out of bed.
Thank you Jessie…..sorry you are having a migraine….so NOT fun….rest is good…..glad you were able to take it easy today…….hope you feel better
I’m Jessica. I’m olmost10
thats all bye
Hello Jessica
This makes me so happy maybe will of of us 10 years Kathy can make our own space to write. Wouldn’t that be fun. We would not be mix up with all the grown up stuff
yes it would be good
our name olmost the same
thank you for writing to me
fromJessica
Jessica
That’s cool don’t you think ? Did you do 10 puzzle! Or something Special ?
yes its cool
I didn’t do no challenges but a little it is a challenge to write here becuase its super scary and we don’t talk much espeshilly me. did you do any special thing? I feel happy you talked to me.
I’m lil scared about posting. I don’t know how others will like it. 😖 I love horses and dolphins. I like to color and read and paint. I like the idea about artwork. I also love to be outside doing anything. But it’s cold here so we don’t go out as much as I’d like.
It’s not been a great day. I don’t feel very good. 🙁 The littles are whiny and the bigs are groucho pants. Bedtime soon.
Hello Meg
It is cold where we live too. We have a small dog Chihuahua Shih Tzu mix he is only 4.5 lbs. When Baby and I take turn letting him out we just want him to pee and poop fast. Because he so little he doesn’t like the cold either. It is only 10 degrees here. We have some snow on the ground. Do you get snow or just cold? I like being outside when it’s snowing. It’s fun to play in the snow at night time.
Hi Jessie! It snows here too! It’s all melted right now. 🙁 I love the look of the snow on the trees. It’s like a fresh clean blanket! But the bigs hate snow because of driving in it. I used to have a little doggie too! But he died last December. It made me so sad.
Meg
12-9-2018
Meg
Wouldn’t it be nice if Kathy had a place just for us 10year old to chat And share fun stuff. We live in the northeastern USA. In a small state. We are one of the 13 colonies that were first developed in the United States . I can’t tell you anymore then that . We’re not allowed to share were we live on line. For safety reason.
we got to buy a used book on the computer that we wanted. its called the princess diaires. we are ten.
wendy and rachel
Wendy and Rachel
Do you like to do fringed scarves ? I do . Baby and I just made so no sew scarfs for Christmas gifts. I wish I could so you a picture but I don’t how to on the blog they were fun and easy. If you want to know how I can tell you how to make him
Hi Kathy! Hi Hi Hi to Hannah, Kecia, and Jessie. My name is Little Eagle. I’m 10. We did have more kids that were 10 but they joined together with some of the grown-ups after they got help from our therapist and decided they didn’t want to be separate any more. I’m an indian, but I think people call us native Americans now. Our main outside grown-up is not native American, so I don’t know how me and a few other insiders are native Americans. [There is Circle of Light Dancing on Water (we just call her Circle, and she’s a grown-up protector). Sarah Little Bird and Starlight are 11. Sky is 15.]
I like to be outside and go to where I can be in nature, but it’s too cold now to be outside very long. One time when our outside lady went on a trip with one of her friends who knew about us insiders, I got to swim with a dolphin. That was so cool!! I wish I could do that again! I like to read and to draw and color. I like to play mahjong sometimes. I don’t get to be out very much right now because our outside lady has to work a lot to pay the bills, and when she gets home from work she is really tired so we eat dinner and sometimes watch TV for an hour before we go to bed.
I hope maybe soon we can come here more and read things and write more to people. Our grown-ups say this is a good and safe place to learn things and share things with other people who have lots of insiders like we do.
From Little Eagle. 12-7-18
Hi hi hi Little Eagle! 🦅
I don’t think I’ve ever gotten to say hi to you, Little Eagle, so hi hi hi!
I’m glad to hear from you and you know what? I really like mahjong too! And I want to swim with dolphins – I’ve never done that, but I have seen a lot of dolphins in the ocean water near me. I went to see humpback whales a few months ago! That was pretty awesome!
And you know what else, Little Eagle? It is very okay that you are native American, even if your outside lady is not. It’s okay to be exactly who you are. I know lots of native Americans, and they are all beautiful people.
Thank you for writing, and I hope you do get to come back and read and write more. You are certainly welcome to do so! Have a good time being 10! 🙂
Warmly,
Kathy
Hello little Eagle
I like being outside to we use to walk up the mountain everyday . Then Joe died now we do not do a lot of stuff we use to. There is always work to be done when owning a home and not having a husband around to help.
We do go on trips maybe one day I can swim with the dolphins someday. I hope we can talk again do you have a job in the system. My job is I can hear and see most all. So I can keep us a secret. I can fill in anybody that’s out so we don’t look like we don’t know what we are doing. I hope to talk to you more
Hi, I’m Hannah and I’m 10. We also have Kecia who’s sometimes 10.5 and sometimes 11, but that doesn’t count, cuz it’s not 10. But I just wanted to mention Kecia just in case. Our bigger people are feeling kind of blah so they can’t do the other challenges right now.
I like SuDoku and KenKen and word-finds and cryptograms. And listening to music. I used to want to be a famous acting and singing star. We were a stage manager for real when the body was in its 20s but we didn’t act that much cuz there were a lot of people who were better at that. :-/
Anyway I am glad that you and the other helpers are here cuz this is a great place and you help a lot of people. So happy anniversary and I hope you can be here for a long time.
Hannah
Hi Hannah
My name is Jessie I’m 10 also I would like to be yours and Kecia friend. It is hard being 10 in a grown up body. I am happy that I am happy that more 10 years old are on here. I thought I was the only one. I hope I get to read about more of us. Do you live with KenKen? I like reading his post he seams to be a nice man is he? Maybe you can do all the challenges. I am trying to do them. The hard one will be sharing 10 post. I’m just not sure if it is 10 different people or just sharing 10. Do you know?
Hi Jessie,
The KenKen I talked about is a kind of number puzzle. I don’t know if the KenKen who writes here likes doing KenKen puzzles. Our bigger people say it is okay if I don’t do the other challenges. Cuz it’s too much for us to think about.
Hannah
Hello Hannah
Yup we talked about it Is it a hard to play KenKen?
KenKen puzzles come in different sizes. The smallest is four squares by four squares. Those are the easiest. Most of the ones we do are six by six. I really like math so they are easy for me.
Hannah
I wii have to look them up
Hi Hannah!
And…. I’ll say hi to Kecia because 10.5 is still part of being 10 too! Hi Kecia!
Thank you for writing, Hannah. I really like Sudoku too, and I play a Sudoku game or two almost every day. Probably yes, every day. Sometimes lots of Sudoku on a day, haha. And I really like music too. I don’t sing very well, but I have played the piano lots and lots and lots for people who do the singing. 🎶🎶🎶
Thank you for saying hi, and I hope you and Kecia can read and write on here lots more.
I hope you sing a song today, Hannah — just because it’s fun and you like to sing! Maybe sing 3 or 4 songs! Will it help your bigger people feel less blah if you sing some music to them?
I hope you all have a happier day.
Warmly,
Kathy
Hi Hannah, Kecia, and Jessie,
I kinda got a little giggle out of what y’all said.
Hannah, I wasn’t sure if you meant me because you were naming off different games you liked to play and my name was there and I kinda thought maybe it was a typo or something. But, but, but…that is so sweet! You seem like a smart girl. Rocking the 10 year old! I’m glad you have many people around your age inside to spend time with and play. I have no clue how to do Sudoku, it seems really hard just by looking at it.
Jessie, Hey. I just gotta clear up a little something. I guess my name confuses a lot of people. There have been several people who think our outside body is male, but we are an outside girl. Got lots of male insiders. Lots and lots. KenKen is a name T.Clark gave us. He called us that once and it made me feel very loved, a special nickname from a friend. Our last tag name was Kennedy. That is my last name. But, Im a girl. I hope I am nice to everyone. Sometimes I can get…not nice…but usually I try to be friendly.
Thanks for making my day. 💖
KenKen
Thank you for clearing that up. I didn’t know KenKen was a game to.
Hi to Kathy, KenKen, and Jessie. I am answering all of you in one post.
To Kathy: Thank you for writing back. Maybe I’ll sing a song on the inside. I like to listen to music on the radio, but our bigger people listen to news or sports. So I don’t listen to music that much.
And thank you to KenKen the person for explaining to Jessie about KenKen the puzzle.
Hannah
Only cost! Lola. I was confused. I didn’t know KenKen was a game. Oh man! That sentence makes so much more sense in that context! Sorry I was confused. Lolz!
ROTFL … OMG … I read Hannah’s message as referring to you KenKen … but from Wikipedia …
“KenKen … a style of arithmetic and logic puzzle invented in 2004 by Japanese math teacher Tetsuya Miyamoto, who intended the puzzles to be an instruction-free method of training the brain. The name derives from the Japanese word for cleverness …”
There is a game named after you KenKen. Hum … we know that you are a complex puzzle that has helped our brain learn so much more about DID, life and friendship. But logical … sometimes I am not sure about that … hahahaha (just teasing you). I sure do know that you are darn clever KenKen. Now I know why your nickname name (thanks to T,Clark) has fit you so well!!!
Okay … this made my day start with a big smile. Thank you all!
ME+WE
12/10/18
LOL! I have no idea what “Only cost! Lola.” means! LOLZ. All I can think of is my hands weren’t on the keys correctly. And logic…wth? What’s that?! LOL
OMG!!! We are cracking up at this thread. Thank all of yous for this gift!!! 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
OH, I have to agree with you, T.Clark. These gals are funny! I’ve been laughing right out loud as these different posts come in.
KENKEN – YOU are being a HOOT! I don’t know what’s going on with your typing keyboard, but you are definitely giving me the giggles. 🙂 . I thought maybe just maybe you knew what you were talking about — turns out you didn’t know either, LOL. So funny. 🙂
I didn’t know KenKen was a puzzle game, but I really love how ME+WE applied the definition / metaphor so accurately to you.
T.Clark — bet you didn’t realize how clever and brilliant you were being when you came up with the name “KenKen” for our KenKen! It’s pretty perfect — well done, you!
Thanks to Hannah’s recommendation, I’m definitely gonna try that KenKen puzzle game soon!
Hannah from MakersDozn – thanks for starting such a FUN conversation!!
Love it!! Y’all are making my day!
Cheers,
Kathy
I didn’t edit or proofread! Ermigerd! No clue to what that meant. Maybe Oh my gosh. lol. IDK. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
Silly autocorrect is what we would blame it on….
Hi All,
Ok … I set about deciphering KenKen’s message …
“Only cost! Lola. I was confused. …”
… because I got to thinking that — “Only cost! Lola.” — was just too perfectly spelled out and punctuated to be simply a mistake. Oh yes … I do believe in signs from the Other World and that our insiders are our portal to the wisdom of the ancients and knowledge beyond.
So, I set about to try and understand just what our KenKen insider’s were telling us. KenKen may have been confused, but I don’t believe that her insiders were. And, after all, there is a logic/puzzle game named after them! Maybe their message was contained in a brain teaser puzzle of some kind I started to wildly reason.
Now, KenKen surmised that her fingers were just somehow askew on her keyboard when she wrote this even though the rest of her message read just fine. So, I explored this possibility first. There were only two logical combinations possible in my mind (assuming that she meant only to type letters predominantly) but “PM;U VPDY” and “IBKT XIAR” did not make any sense at all. I didn’t throw my research out (it may mean something later) but I abandoned that route of inquiry fairly quickly. Okay … yes … I was too lazy to explore that line of investigation any further.
Next, I explored the idea that “only cost” was a word scramble of some sort. But, “only” has no other variations and “cost” only rearranges to “cots” and “Scots”. So, unless the message was intended “only” for folks of Scottish origin (“Scots) there was no sense to be made of it (no offence to any Scots reading here). But, what if “only cost” was actually one word to be unscrambled? Well now, that would give us – tycoon and cytosol. Now we are getting somewhere interesting … I thought … hoped!
The word tycoon I knew so I looked up the definition: a wealthy, powerful person in business or industry; a title applied by foreigners to the shogun of Japan in power between1857 and 1868. (Merriam Webster) Hum … well … we are all certainly powerful (although we may not realize it) … but wealthy? Not accurate for most folks here I am thinking. Actually, the DID diagnosis means Deeply In Debt for a lot of folks. Then there is the six degrees of separation between Japan and our KenKen game. But, this just did not feel right to me. My gut was telling me there was something more to be found.
So, what is this word – “cytosol”. Never heard of it before so I am thinking that it cannot possibly have anything to do with my quest here. I was just about to move on to something else when I thought, “what do I have to loose … check it out.” Well, according to my Internet search: “The cytosol … is the liquid found inside cells. It is separated into compartments by membranes. Although it was once thought to be a simple solution of molecules, the cytosol has multiple levels of organization.” (Wikipedia)
Cytosol is the perfect metaphor for DID. Every part of who we are is cellular in structure. Within each cell of our bodies is the essential life fluid of our existence – cytosol (our systems). Our cytosol (system) is divided up into various compartments by membranes (dissociative walls) that are a natural part of our most basic cellular existence. Perhaps most importantly, there are multiple layers of organization to our systems and, as such, we cannot view our systems with a simple solution in mind. In other words, our systems are as basic and essential to our existence as cytosol.
Oh wow … what can Lola possibly add to all of this understanding. Well, Lola can only be reorganized as “olla” – “An olla is a ceramic jar, often unglazed, used for cooking stews or soups, for the storage of water or dry foods, or for other purposes.” (Wikipedia) Well, we know that Kathy is big on making homemade soup, so “olla” certainly was feeling like a good fit. Having a container to store all of our stuff is certainly a wonderful idea. But wait — that is who we are. We are the container of something very special – our systems (our cytosol). We are our ollas. But we have our Discussing Dissociation olla as well. We pour out the contents of our minds, hearts and souls here on the blog pages every day and our DD olla provides us with a safe, compassionate and welcoming container to hold us in thoughtful care. What a beautiful metaphor for our community here — our DD olla.
So, you see, I believe that KenKen’s posting — “Only cost! Lola.” – was not a mistake after all. KenKen’s insiders had something important to say to us. Oh, and maybe the final thing that they were trying to tell us is that learning to work with our insiders, to communicate with them, to find out who they are and what they have to say, etc. is a lot like the KenKen mental/logic/puzzle game as well as the brain teaser that KenKen’s insiders offered to us here. Life is not a game for sure. But, the challenges that we are facing to understand our selves and work with our systems requires the same kind of work, perseverance, open mind, willingness, creativity, trust, gut feelings and maybe … just maybe … a little dash of fun along the way.
Just a little fun folks … well … and maybe a few truths mixed in along the way.
Sincere warm wishes to my DD olla!
ME+WE
12/12/18
PS – Yes I have a cold, the power is out here and I am really feeling stir crazy … hahaha!!!
Me + We —
Wow! You should be a detective. That was such an interesting read. Thank you for sharing your research!!
-CD
12-16-18
Literally in awe, ME+WE. Amazing and hilarious, you are. This makes DID so much more fun than it usually is. 💕❤️ 12/17/18
Hi T.Clark,
Sorry I missed this message before sending my other one. Glad that you got a smile out of my folly. ☺ It all started with you giving Kennedy her nickname. Circles in circles … oh I am getting dizzy! ☺
ME+WE
12/17/18
Lmao! We love this! You did some serious research and unscrambling there. My mind is saying ‘yeah, that’s what we meant right there. Me+We deciphered our brain tease puzzle’. Man, I must really have DID to have such brilliant alters and no clue myself to what they mean. Lol. Big hugs to yous. Hope that awful flu is going away for you. 🤧😷🤢🤕
This is great
LOL … I am glad that you had some fun with this CD, KenKen and Sissy. 😜 Research is a part of my professional persona CD but you have given me thoughts to a new career in retirement … hahaha. 😎 And KenKen, your insiders are brilliant there is no doubt in my mind. 😊
The real key to this little bit of fun is that our insiders are continually offering us information that we may not understand. It takes creativity, an open mind, trusting our gut instincts, lots of work and a willingness to look beyond the obvious sometimes to figure out what they are trying to tell us. But, it is so worth the effort!
🚀💫
ME+WE
12/17/18
Hello All,
Congratulations Kathy on an outstanding 10 years! Your devotion to helping folks with DID is awe inspiring. You are a precious gift to our community.
So, I am adding a challenge here for everyone who wishes to participate – Challenge: It All Began With Kathy – 10 words to describe Kathy.
Challenge: It All Began With Kathy
Brilliant; Warm; Unassuming; Caring; Knowledgeable; Selfless; Real; Passionate; Funny; Crusader.
Challenge 1: 10 words to describe Discussing Dissociation:
Grounding; Informative; Insightful; Compassionate; Welcoming; Honest; Safe; Inclusive; Fun; Healing.
Challenge 2: My favourite articles (if I must choose just 10):
1) 20 Types of Dissociative Splits
2) 50 Treatment Issues for Dissociative Identity Disorder
3) 10 Steps for Doing Healing Work with Your DID System
4) Demonstrating DID System Work with Dark Side Parts during a Difficult Time
5) What Happens When you Don’t Talk to Your Insiders?
6) DID Kids are Precious – Treat them with Kindness
7) What Do You Need to Know About Dissociative Identity Disorder?
8) Why Bother to Integrate if You’re Multiple?
9) Internal Communication is Critical
10) 10 Truths for Adult Survivors of Sexual Abuse
Challenge 3, 4, 5: Working on these. I do not have a ten year old but I do have a twelve year old who I think wants to speak later.
Challenge 6: Acronyms and some general thoughts on the potential topics (note: most of this has already been addressed but there is always more to say):
D – DESPAIR: Breaking free of the cycle of despair; managing those despairing times, reframing the desperate out of despair; are we destined to be in despair all of our lives?; how do we build new neural pathways around despair; …
I – INTEGRATION: Is integration necessary; how is it achieved; does it happen naturally; are alters who disappear (die?) just integrated; how do you live successfully without integrating; …
S – SELF-ABUSE: Some discussions around eating disorders; alcohol and drug abuse; destructive insiders; other destructive behaviours; …
C – COMMUNICATION: Lots of different aspects to this one from internal communication; host to insiders; insiders to each other; multiples to singletons; learning the language of insiders; kinds of communication; …
U – UNDERSTANDING: Building a culture of understanding internally (within our systems); to outsiders in our life: society in general: the psychiatric/psychological community; …
S – SILLINESS: The silly/fun things our insiders have done/do as well as silly/fun things to do with our insiders … nurturing our silly beans as my one insider would say …
S – SEXUALITY: how to become a healthy happy sexual adult; littles and adult sexual relationships; setting safe boundaries; fears and dysfunction; …
I – IDENTITY: Discussions about the word “identity” in the term Dissociative Identity Disorder; defining our identity; our “true” identity?; what identity do we want to project to the world; is there a true identity without all insiders participating?; …
N – NAVIGATION: Getting through our daily lives as multiples – the ups, downs and in betweens.
G – GROUNDING: Understanding triggers; heading off switching; grounding techniques; …
Challenge 7: Puzzles – done over 10 word puzzles, puzzle games and the like but will do a few online jigsaw puzzles as well at my favourite website: https://www.thejigsawpuzzles.com/Puzzle-of-the-Day-jigsaw-puzzle
Challenge 8: Checking the DD website for 10 minutes every day … already do this as a part of my daily routine … this is my rock, safe/grounding place, my community!
Challenge 9: Financial contribution to the DD website … happily done!
Challenge 10: A bit harder. Only a few folks know about my DID to share with. Guess my husband is going to get 10 messages from me!
Kudos and gratitude to the whole DD team!
ME+WE
12/06/18
Me +We
10 words to describe Kathy
1: Soothing voice
2: loves animals and
3: enjoys trees and metaphors
4: beautiful smile
5: Makes things safe on the blog
6: truthful
7: Likes to talk a lot and fast when she’s nervous
8: Tells us were not lying and that we speak the truth
9: She’s learning to enjoy her quiet time
10: and sometimes she’s forgetful she forgot to post a new story for Baby
Oh Jessie … what wonderful words you have chosen to describe Kathy … especially your mention of her love of animals and trees (nature) because these are some of my personal favourite things as well. Oh and yes — Kathy has a beautiful smile. So nice to see her smiling picture on every DD webpage. Kinda makes you feel like she is there with you all of the time.
I so relate to your likes as well. My little ones love arts and crafts. I think that we will be making a snowman soon … oh, and installing a merry-go-round. What a great idea! My little ones love the horses that we go and visit but we would never ride them. But, we would ride on merry-go-round horses. We can colour them to look just like our real horses.
ME+WE
12/08/18
Thank you, Jessie!
You have said some super kind things about me! And you are learning stuff – I think you must be watching those videos! But ummmm… you forgot to say how much of a silly pants I can be, hahaha.
Oh but, Jessie… I have not not not forgotten that Baby has asked for a new story. I did not forget for one second! Yes, I have been super slow over here getting that done, (sorry, Baby!) but I have not forgotten!
It’s gonna happen…. After I get the Forum stuff all finished, I will have some extra time to make a brand new story. 🙂
I hope you are having a good day and please say hi to Baby for me too!
Warmly,
Kathy
me and wendy be 10.
we dont no anything fun to do.
we just be sad.
we dont no if were gonna have therapy this week or have a turn.
we mosly just try to stay out of the way.
Rachel and Wendy
Sometimes I just play games with Baby we have a inside. Merry-go-round And it’s fun. Maybe you guys can get one. Do you guys like to do arts and crafts? Maybe you can make a picture or get styrofoam balls make a snowman. You would need 3 balls and 3 Buttons you can make them out of paper or you can use regular ones To who is orange I’ll clean it to make carrot for the nose A piece of string for the mouth Draw the eyes or used gumdrops. How are you can paint it black and you can use the small Dixie cups you know the little paper ones well you can go to like a McDonald’s or something to get a catch-up container a little white 1 And make black for the arms go outside and get twigs you will need glue to put everything together you can also draw mittens and stick them on the end of the twigs
Hi Rachel, Hi Wendy,
It’s good to hear from you, and oh my goodness, I most certainly hope you can think of something fun to do! You usually have lots n lots of fun ideas, and you know all kinds of stuff about playing. I can hear that you are feeling a little sad… I hope that you don’t have to keep hiding tho’. It’s okay to come out and do more of those fun things.
What are 3 good things that you get to do today?
I am quite sure that you can find 3 good things for today. Will you write us back and tell us what you find?
I hope you feel better soon.
Warmly,
Kathy
we helped clean the house 🏡
we got a new book
we talked to are talker lady
we put up are little crhsitmas tree 🌲
Dear Kathy!
Congratulations for your 10 years old wonderful DID site!
I have read your site for years, and I am grateful for everything in here: when I’m reading Discussing Dissociation, I remember and I feel that I’m not the only person in the world who is suffering deeply because of horrible childhood, and I also remember that in the world is a lot of people – like you Kathy! – who is looking STRAIGHT to us and our painful wounds and scars from childhood.
Thank you very very much, Kathy!
Hello hello to you, DID in Finland —
It’s just always soooo cool to see folks from all kinds of countries reading and posting here. Finland! That’s awesome!
It’s wonderful to hear from folks who have been around for years…. quietly reading in the background. I am enjoying “meeting you”, and I am really glad you are here.
And thank you for your very kind words. I can assure you that you are not the only person suffering deeply, and it’s good to hear that you are finding comfort and healing from being part of this site.
Please keep reading, and thanks for letting us know that DID is represented here from Finland as well! Awesome to have you around!
Warmly,
Kathy
Hello Kathy
I remember reading that most of us were from the states. I’m wounding what Country do you have. Communications with. I just think it’s amazing how everything comes to me in English and I do not have to translate anything. So however that is achieved. I’m grateful for that. That way I will not miss out on any postings. I’m wondering if you could list the different countries that do communicate . And what the percentages are are used the blog.
How is youtPrecious granddaughter doing is she recovering well emotionally?
⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️good job kathy.⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️
Challenge 1: I find Discussing Dissociation inspiring, thought-provoking, affirming, healthy, real, satisfying, challenging, thoughtful, caring and connecting!
Challenge 4: From my 10-year old – her name is Nellie. “I would like to write with a different kind of letters, cause these are too regular. I’m pretty grown up now and I’m old enough to help a lot. I’m smart and I’m good at running and I can play the violin. Sometimes I do something and my teacher isn’t happy with me. I feel ashamed. I wasn’t trying to get in trouble. I get to build things with my dad in his workshop on Saturdays. That’s lots of fun! I like being 10 cause I’m not a little kid any more!”
Challenge 5: My ten-year-old gets a say in great clothes to wear pretty much every day and she loves it. Lots of energy for picking out clothes for the day! She wants to go to the movies, so Friday night is going to be movie night.
Thanks for envisioning Discussing Dissociation in the first place 10 years ago! It and you are a gift to a wide community! Happy Birthday! Ellen
Happy 10 Year Anniversary! Keep up all your good work.
Thank you, KenKen…. 🙂
It’s good to hear from you.
Thanks for the giggles you created a little further down in this thread.
Laughter is just the BEST medicine. 🙂
Cheers,
Kathy
Challenge number 6 word acronym for Discussing Dissociation.
Developing
Internal
strengths
caring
underlining
successes
satisfying
individuals
never
grew
Doing
inlay
social
services
over
coming
isolation
at
times
involving
one’s
neediness
Challenge 1 use 10 words describing. Discussing Dissociation blog
1:supportive
2:useful
3:beneficial
4:giving
5:validating
6:knowledge
7:important
8:understanding
9:trustworthy
10:emotional
Challenge 2: 10 of my favorite articles not in order
1:I Knew You Could! — An Encouraging Children’s Story
2: Building DID Emotional Support and Inspiration
3:5 Kinds of Emotional Support Needed by Dissociative Trauma Survivors
4:Do’s and Don’ts for Singleton Friends of Multiples
5:My 100 Strengths, as Said by a Group of Dissociative Trauma Survivors
6:10 Benefits of Being Multiple
7:10 Qualities a Therapist Recognizes in a Good Client, part 1 and 2
8:Life-Changing Heartbreak Hurts
9:Night Time Mystery story, with Pooh and Piglet
10:Examples of Successful Progress in the DID Healing Process
Challenge 4:
I am 10 I like to quilt with iLori arts and crafts I like playing with the grand-babies I like word search sometimes I like to research things
Today I wanted to go see Belinda but iBaby and LORI2 went. I Help to re-organize the toy room
10 words to describe Discussing Dissociation:
Helpful: So many articles to me and my supporters understand DID
Informative: Get about how I can help myself and my supporters can help me
Difficult: When I firsts found Discussing Dissociation I could not leave comments on the old site and then when it was moved to this spot my comments to articles were rarely posted and still are rarely posted for whatever reason
Disappointing: Discussing Dissociation has been a wonderful resource to turn to and after reading about the “new” features coming or are available we are disappointed that these wonderful resources will only be available for only those who can pay for them (the forum, the emailing or phone consultations). It is very difficult to pay for these new features because of the limited money most people who are being challenged with DID being on disability. We have always come to this website because if offered free article and other resources and now it is turning into a “pay us for this service”. We understand you can’t continue to run the site because of costs out of your pocket but most of us will miss out on these available resources when there are times we need them
Useful: When we have someone who is really interested in supporting us, we come here to give them articles or videos or podcasts to help answer questions that we are unable to and they so much appreciate the information.
Annoying: Since the new website has started every time we come we constantly get pop-ups for the “101+” article which we already had received and read when it first came out. We couldn’t read an article without having this pop-up come up at least 4 times. When we have referred our supporters they complain to me that they could not read very informative articles without having several pop-ups about joining the website and the “101+” article as well. I have to come to the site, cut and paste the article they want to read, then email it to them so they can read it without interruption
Open-minded: Love to read the replies to articles. At times they can be just helpful as the original article associated with the article.
Community: We get the feeling that we are not the only one who has difficult times with this rare mental health challenge
Honesty: Kathy may try to start a topic/article with a happy spin but after reading the entire article she is honest and tells us all what we need to know even if it does not contain happy information or a happy ending
Thanks: Thank you for creating a place where we can learn more about this misunderstood diagnosis and tools we and our supporters can use to help each other. This is a great place where we have been surprised to have found a non-judgemental community
Hi Amie,
I am sorry that some of your posting did not get through. There must have been some technical issues at your end or perhaps Kathy’s end (she sure has had some troubles of late). I am saying that because only once this past year have I had a posting not appear (for good reason as one of my insiders went off).
When I have issues/problems, I write to the Client Care Team – namely Claire and Alex. They helped me sort things out on several occasions. If you have problems with your postings again, send them an email at: admin@discussingdissociation.com. They are super kind and helpful. Oh, and you can check them out on the blog article – “10 New Additions to Discussing Dissociation Designed to Help Your DID System”.
Hum … I have had the same problem with the pop-ups for the “101+” article but not consistently. I guess that I should have sent a note to the Team about it. I guess that Kathy knows now so that is good. Actually, that is a helpful reminder to us all that when we encounter problems like this we let Kathy and the Team know. They cannot know that there are problems unless we tell them.
ME+WE
12/07/18
Hey Amie,
Thanks for your long reply! You’ve brought up some good questions, and I’ll see if I can reply to them.
1. I remember that for some very bizarre and unknown reason, your comments had ended up in my Spam folder instead of the Comments folder. There was never any answer for why that happened as your responses have always been very appropriate, positive, worthwhile comments! I have to admit — sometimes, through the years — I have forgotten to check the spam folders, and it empties automatically every few days, so…. there is some possibility that I’ve missed posting comments from you if new ones went into Spam and I didn’t catch them in time.
For example, a comment from ME+WE went into the Spam folder recently. And why? why? why? I have no idea. I know a few other very decent and positive comments have ended up in Spam as well, so I’ve been reminding myself to check that area on a regular basis. Hopefully I won’t miss any more positive comments that way!
2. And yes, as ME+WE suggested, please do contact the Client Care team now if there are any issues or concerns. They are there to help, and they can carry the load when I have far too much going on to manage all the different pieces. The Contact page is the quickest and easiest way to send them a message.
3. There will always, always be free articles, and free information, and free resources here at Discussing Dissociation. That fact is important to me, and that will never change. And yes, as the blog has grown, and as a bigger and bigger team is needed in order to maintain or develop all the responses / requests received, there are certainly more and more costs involved too. For me as well!
Amie, I am just like any other therapist who charges for their services. I do LOTS of free things, and yet, I need to pay normal living expenses just like everyone else. This blog is my office, so you know… some things are free, while other services will require a payment, of course. I’m not an agency nor am I funded by any governmental account. I’m just a clinical therapist dedicated to the population of dissociative survivors. There’s nothing fancy about me, that’s for sure!
4. I will send a copy of your experiences with the pop-up’s to the computer girl. This is her area of expertise and I let her look further into that issue. Thanks for the feedback!
5. THANK YOU for referring your friends and supporters to this site for information! I am super glad to hear that. There will be more and more articles and resources added over time, so hopefully, they will feel even more supported and educated as this site builds and grows.
I am so very pleased to hear that you experience this site as non-judgmental. THAT’s a fantastic compliment and a wonderful statement about the quality of folks who visit this site. We are a positive, helpful, kind community, and I certainly intend to keep it that way!
I wish you the best in your healing journey, and thanks again for all your feedback.
Warmly,
Kathy
LOL … I am sure a lot of my messages end up in your SPAM folder Kathy. For years I taught my students to simply filter unwanted messages directly into their SPAM folders. I know that that is not the case here … at least I hope not … hahahaha. I will let you know that sometimes I get the message pop up that I have already posted this comment when I have not (although I have participated in the thread). Sometimes I try again because I am so uncertain if an insider has messed with me or not. Just thinking that that may be why they end up in your SPAM folder? We’re gonna keep your computer gal busy!
BTW Amie, I should have specified that the one message of mine that did not get posted was filtered out by Kathy. She contacted me and told me why and I wholeheartedly agreed. One of my alters posted without my knowing and I was extremely happy that Kathy caught it.
ME+WE
12/09/18
Amie,
What an honest and expressive response! Bravo!
I mean that. Because sometimes people don’t say what they are thinking or pointing out difficulties with honest expressions.
The money issues you expressed are something we can relate to. I can tell you a time we expressed the same difficulties with this site and with Kathy.
I can tell you that we have learned over the years that this site and Kathy has a LOT to offer at no cost.
I don’t think you had to pay for Kathy to respond here at all.
I get what you are saying. I think there’s a longing to have access to the portions of the site that requires money. Yet, there is no way that you can have that.
That’s hard.. very hard. Been there and doing that too.
I’m not here to make you change your mind or guilt you. I just want you to know that I understand your frustration. I admire your honest thoughts and opinions.
I will start out by saying that I love this blog and I’m so thankful it is here as a tremendous resource. My biggest hang-up is the lack of dates/times and follow up to comments posted. I do not have the time to come back daily to check to see if my comment has been replied to. I would LOVE a “subscribe to comments” button when I post a comment.
Challenge 1: 10 words to describe DD – complicated, time loss, information, sharing, community, resource, bad format, difficult to use, repetitive, guide
Challenge 2:
Up to 10 favorite articles (not in order)
How do You Define Safety from Feeling Unsafe?
DID Kids are Precious – Treat them with Kindness
What is a Perpetrator Introject in a Dissociative DID System?
50 Treatment Issues for Dissociative Identity Disorder
Don’t Touch My Stuff
Demonstrating DID System Work with Dark Side Parts during a Difficult Time
Developing Internal Communication – Starting with the Basics
Internal Communication – The Core of Treatment for Dissociative Identity Disorder
Overcoming Instability Issues and Unsuccessful Memory Work
Emotional Intensity, Safety and Memory Work
Challenge 6:
Using the word Discussing as the main starting word, and do an Acronym based on the theme of “What topics would you like to discuss here on the blog, or in the DD Community Forum?”
Discussing dead/injured alters (this is currently an issue and I can only find one source ANYWHERE on it, I’m sure I’m not the only one with a “dead” alter).
Discussing sharing with friends/loved ones
Discussing switches
Discussing littles and how to fulfill all of their needs
Discussing inner world improvements
Discussing time loss
Discussing grounding strategies
Discussing those with careers and DID
Discussing good internal communication (I know that this is hit on a lot, but it’s always good to get new ideas).
Discussing alters having different diagnosable conditions (one having OCD or ADHD or stomach issues, etc)
I do have an insider (I prefer this term rather than alter) that is 9/10. She’s fairly new to me, so I’m not sure she will participate — but I will try my best to show her some extra love this week.
Hi CD,
So great to hear your voice here. Just wanted to encourage you to date your postings to keep track of a timeline. I have mixed thoughts about the need to do this (i.e., thinking that when something is posted does not really matter) but I am in the habit of dating my postings. I also keep a copy of my postings on my desktop in files organized by article topics so I know what I have posted and when. So, at least I know what blog article to check to see if there is a reply. But, I do check the DD website just about every day in the morning and as a final bedtime ritual – especially if I am hoping for a reply to something that I have posted (I am too impatient to wait … LOL). I have really busy days where all I can do is skim through who has posted on what topic and then look at some of the posting if I have the time. I check daily as well for anything new from Kathy. Sort of like brushing my teeth every day. I just would not feel right if I didn’t check in. Okay … a little of my obsessive-compulsive nature showing through … hahaha!
Oh and … ya the format is really not great for dialogue. It is a blog after all that we all kind of took to writing back and forth on like a forum. Kathy is probably wondering what kind of a monster she created giving us open access to comment and talk on everything under the sun here at DD. That is why I am looking forward to the new forum. That is really the best way to handle some of the issues that you have pointed out here. Hope to see you there.
ME+WE
12/07/18
Me+We —
I try to remember to post the date, but often forget. Oh well I guess. I comment mostly from my phone, so it’s harder to keep track of everything. I follow a lot of blogs and almost always have the option of “subscribing” to the comments. As far as the date and time (and the comments too I suppose)… That impacts my OCD. It’s really dealing with the uncertainty. What if I miss something valuable? What if? What if? What if? .
I’m glad your routine works for you to be so dedicated. I know that I always look forward to reading your input and comments. Quite a few of your comments sick out in my mind. One being your “family photo album”. I have taken it and adapted it for me. I have a Pinterest board of pictures for exactly that purpose. It’s recently really helped my T too (even though I’ve had the board for a year, I recently showed him after seeing your comment again). Anywho, I work, go to therapy often, and have a young child to care for, on top of trying to apply things I’ve learned here… I don’t barely have a minute to breathe. I hope that the forum addresses some of these things.
Thanks for your response!
-CD (12/8/18)
Hi CD,
Oh my … I hope that my posting did not sound too preachy (I do this and I do that). Was certainly not my intention. I sincerely apologize if it came off as anything more than my relating my obsessive-compulsive ways of doing things. Just my way is all with the thought that there may be something there for others to consider.
I so appreciate that folks have super busy schedules and major commitments. I am so very fortunate to be “semi” retired so I have time. Sometimes I forget about that. Oh, my … apologies again. And, raising a young child … there is a huge 24/7 commitment. Kudos to you!!! My husband and I have been adopted as parents/grandparents to a lovely young couple and their 22 month old daughter. We stay with them two nights every week because our therapies are a bit of a distance from our home. So, I have three days of toddler time every week and I am exhausted by the time that we go home. I now know why we are not meant to have children when we are this old … hahahaha
And, I so understand about “uncertainty”. That is why I am so overly compulsive about organization. Always have been but am just getting to know the “why” of it since my DID diagnosis. I have had to be rigid about how I organize my life because it gets so off-the-rails so easily (and often). I have to know that I can count on some things always being the same and there for me in my normally chaotic life. That is why I check in on the DD website at least twice a day. It is like a lightening rod for me grounding all of that chaos and uncertainty of my day. It is not dedication for me – it is survival.
So glad that the idea of a “family photo album” has helped you!
Wishing you a few moments every day to breathe CD.
ME+WE
12/09/18
PS – Apologies to Kathy for going off blog topic here.
Me+We —
Nope, not preachy at all. I’m genuinely glad that your schedule allows it. What fun to get some toddler time (that you can walk away from). 🙂
Looking forward to future conversations. 🙂
-CD
12/09/18
Hey CD,
Thank you for such a detailed response to the 10 challenges! It’s great to hear from you, and I’m glad you have found the blog to be a “tremendous resource”. WOW. That’s a fantastic compliment – thank you!
The good news is — YES, yes, oh gosh yes, the forum format will be MASSIVELY easier to follow and find topics, especially when there are so many different comments / conversations occurring day after day. No doubt about that. Forums are intended to keep a zillion conversations organized all at once, and blogs …. well, blogs were not made for that purpose. It certainly is hard to find previous comments here. I agree!
AND, of course, simplifying conversation formats is one of the main reasons for building the Forum in the first place. I’m sure it will take a little adjusting to, but I’m looking forward to all the new ways that conversations can happen between folks.
You’ve also brought up a good point about adding a “subscribe to comments” feature at this blog. I’m really not sure why that hasn’t clicked in my brain before — maybe you said it with the exact phrase for me to hear. If that is possible, I think that is a great idea. So…. I’ve written a request to the Computer Gal to check into that feature to add for us here on the blog. Her top priority of the week will be getting the Forum finalized (oh, we are so so so close!), but once she has that completed, she’ll get back to me, I’m sure.
Thanks again for reading and visiting so often, and you’ve mentioned a lot of great ideas for additional topics. Thank you! Looks like I could be writing for a long, long, long time…. 🙂
Please send a friendly hello to your newly found 9/10 year old insider! I hope she’s having a good day!
Warmly,
Kathy
Challenge 1: Informative, Fun, Supportive, Educational, Kind, Safe, Colorful, Challenging, Inclusive, Welcoming
Challenge 9: Done!
9+1=10 for you Kathy!
We are crazy busy right now packing for a move, so kids will have Christmas at the new home. Any links to helpful stuff are appreciated.
Happy 10 year Anniversary Discussing Dissociation!
Kathy,
Remember I am 10 I like Challenges so I’m gonna do Them all.
Oh yes, yes, yes, Jessie! I absolutely remember that you are 10! You are specifically one of the 10-year olds who I was thinking of when I wrote those paragraphs for 10-year olds! And you are one tough smart determined and clever 10-year old too! It will take a lot of work to do all 10 of the challenges, but I bet you can do it! I’ll be glad to see you do them, too. I’ll smile with and clap with each one you accomplish! 🙂 .
Thanks for being here, Jessie. I appreciate you!
Warmly,
Kathy
Kathy I finished
For one of the challenges. Acronym for Discussing Dissociation
Developing
Internal
Strength
Caring
Underlining
Success
Satisfying
Individual
Needing
Growth
Doing
Inlay
Social
Services
Over
Coming
Isolation
At
Times
Involving
Ones
Needless
Challenge 1 use 10 words describing. Discussing Dissociation blog
supportive
useful
beneficial
giving
validating
knowledge
important
understanding
trustworthy
Challenge 2: 10 of my favorite articles not in order
1:I Knew You Could! — An Encouraging Children’s Story
2: Building DID Emotional Support and Inspiration
3:5 Kinds of Emotional Support Needed by Dissociative Trauma Survivors
4:Do’s and Don’ts for Singleton Friends of Multiples
5:My 100 Strengths, as Said by a Group of Dissociative Trauma Survivors
6:10 Benefits of Being Multiple
7:10 Qualities a Therapist Recognizes in a Good Client, part 1 and 2
8:Life-Changing Heartbreak Hurts
9:Night Time Mystery story, with Pooh and Piglet
10:Examples of Successful Progress in the DID Healing Process
Challenge 3: post 10 different comments and to the readers that are on the blog
1:
Jessie says
Stressedout
I push people out so I have a turn at talking or doing something ir I get frustrated when some doesn’t have the right answers. So my therapist is trying to get me to ask first. Sometimes I can but mostly I can not yet. When I do I feel happy but nobody every notices when I do. Once we use a talking stick. The person who had the stick gets to talk and nobody else.
2:Jessie says
Kathy,
Remember I am 10 I like Challenges so I’m gonna do Them all.
Reply
3:Jessie says
Rachel and Wendy
Sometimes I just play games with Baby we have a inside. Merry-go-round And it’s fun. Maybe you guys can get one. Do you guys like to do arts and crafts? Maybe you can make a picture or get styrofoam balls make a snowman. You would need 3 balls and 3 Buttons you can make them out of paper or you can use regular ones To who is orange I’ll clean it to make carrot for the nose A piece of string for the mouth Draw the eyes or used gumdrops. How are you can paint it black and you can use the small Dixie cups you know the little paper ones well you can go to like a McDonald’s or something to get a catch-up container a little white 1 And make black for the arms go outside and get twigs you will need glue to put everything together you can also draw mittens and stick them on the end of the twigs
4:Jessie says
Me +We
10 words to describe Kathy
1: Soothing voice
2: loves animals and
3: enjoys trees and metaphors
4: beautiful smile
5: Makes things safe on the blog
6: truthful
7: Likes to talk a lot and fast when she’s nervous
8: Tells us were not lying and that we speak the truth
9: she’s the hunter enjoy your quiet time
10: and sometimes she’s forgetful she forgot to post a new story for Baby
5:
Jessie says
Sissy
Remember Belinda always says do what you can and that will be good enough
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Jessie says
Hi Hannah
My name is Jessie I’m 10 also I would like to be yours and Kecia friend. It is hard being 10 in a grown up body. I am happy that I am happy that more 10 years old are on here. I thought I was the only one. I hope I get to read about more of us. Do you live with KenKen? I like reading his post he seams to be a nice man is he? Maybe you can do all the challenges. I am trying to do them. The hard one will be sharing 10 post. I’m just not sure if it is 10 different people or just sharing 10. Do you know?
7:Jessie says
Hello little Eagle
I like being outside to we use to walk up the mountain everyday . Then Joe died now we do not do a lot of stuff we use to. There is always work to be done when owning a home and not having a husband around to help.
We do go on trips maybe one day I can swim with the dolphins someday. I hope we can talk again do you have a job in the system. My job is I can hear and see most all. So I can keep us a secret. I can fill in anybody that’s out so we don’t look like we don’t know what we are doing. I hope to talk to you more
8:Jessie says
Hello Meg
It is cold where we live too. We have a small dog Chihuahua Shih Tzu mix he is only 4.5 lbs. When Baby and I take turn letting him out we just want him to pee and poop fast. Because he so little he doesn’t like the cold either. It is only 10 degrees here. We have some snow on the ground. Do you get snow or just cold? I like being outside when it’s snowing. It’s fun to play in the snow at night time.
9:Jessie says
Hello Jessica
This makes me so happy. maybe will of of us 10 years, Kathy can make our own space to write. Wouldn’t that be fun. We would not be mix up with all the grown up stuff
10: Jessie says
Hello partsofme
Lori wears a Fitbit now it shows when you have been sleeping . It’s fun to look at the data with the sleep patterns on therapy day our sleep is the worst. Sometimes she will ask us ok who was doing what last night. Our husband bught is a GPS for two reason we can always find our way home and it shows we here we have been. Lori thinks all d.i.d people should have both of these tools.
Challenge 4: I am 10 I like to quilt with iLori arts and crafts I like playing with the grand-babies I like word search sometimes I like to research things
Today I wanted to go see Belinda but iBaby and LORI2 went. I Help to re-organize the toy room
Challenge 5:
Do something nice for the 10-year-old. I am the 10-year-old so I did something nice for me I colored and painted
Challenge 6:
Do acronym with Discussing and what you would like to discuss on the blog
D drama within the system
I Ideas for fun stuff
S secrets that we keep
C changing bad habits
U understanding why loopholes are not always good
S Successes that we’ve had
S self worth
I Inner workings
N noticing stresses
G grounding techniques
Challenge 7:
Doing 10 puzzles
Did puzzles with the grandbabies did word puzzles on the phone did quilting that like puzzles too.
Challenge 8:
Checking out the blog for 10 minutes every day. That was easy I did that already
Challenge 9:
Donate $10 did that today
Challenge 10:
Share the discussing Dissociation 10 times
Do that almost every day with Belinda and Darcy. I do through emails.