Okay …. it’s time for some fun. I really like to be silly, and I hope you do too.
I’ve had a birthday again. You know, they just keep coming every single year! What’s up with that ?! I wish I could stay young like you kids…. but I just don’t know how to do that! 😉
Except this year, was a little different, and this year, something kinda cool happened, and I’d like to know what you think.
First, I want to acknowledge that I know birthdays can be difficult times for lots of DID folks, and these days are often filled full with yucky scary memories. Those terrible mean people were NOT supposed to hurt you on your birthday, and I am very very sorry that they did.
Today, this birthday story is about something new. I want to show you about A NEW kind of birthday for you — a good one. I had a very good birthday this year, and I want to show you that those days are allowed to be fun as well.
The important thing is to NOT be with anyone who is gonna hurt you. That’s soooo important that I’m going to repeat that. The important thing is to NOT be with anyone who is gonna hurt you.
It’s so much better to have a happy day with kind people, fun people, silly people, even boring people, puppy people, kitty people, butterfly people, stuffie-people, teddy bear people, horsie people — and yes, I’m definitely including your kind insider people as part of this people-list. Invite only those you know who are kind and gentle and fun and playful. When you have a group like that, you can have a very good day.
It’s fun to make a birthday a HAPPY DAY.
For that matter, ANY day can be a HAPPY Day. You can be creative and pick ANY day to be your Happy Day !
The recipe for a HAPPY DAY is
- wear your favorite shirt
- find a ridiculous party hat — just for fun
- get some of your favorite treats to eat
- add something playful — sparklers are a great idea
- have plenty of time so you aren’t rushed
- play some bouncy boppy music in the background
- be as silly and funny as you want to be
- be with good friends or someone who makes you laugh
- do some of your very favorite activities
- bring your smiles and let your happy shine through!
So here’s the million dollar question of the day. It might be a bit silly to be asking you this, but Oliver and I are having a very serious discussion. Puggy to Kathy, Kathy to Puggy.
Oliver, as you might know, is one of the cutest little pugs in the whole wide world. Even if he does snort and snore when he sleeps, he’s just the best, and he’s a fantastic friend too.
Oliver thinks HE looks best in party hats. He thinks he is the very most handsomest and the very most adorable puggy and he’s not afraid to show it. I have to agree — he’s pretty awesome.
But this year, I had to challenge him, just for fun.
I know Oliver wears hats very very well. There’s no doubt about it. So this year I took this competition very seriously. And now, it’s up to you to decide.
Who wears birthday hats better — Oliver ?? or Me ??
Here’s Oliver looking very snazzy in his fancy hat:
OH HOW ADORABLE IS THAT ??!!!!
Pugs have just the sweetest little faces…. sweet Oliver, so beautiful, and absolutely gorgeous. For sure, there’s no doubt about it.
Thank you, Oliver, for the Happy Day wishes from you. :).
But cheer up, Oliver. THIS is a HAPPY Day. Where’s your big cheesey smile, Oliver? Is that oh so sad, sad, sad face the best party face that you’ve got?
Oh, Oliver. Maybe I can cheer you up.
Have a look at me, all snazzed up in my fancy jazzy Party Hat:
YEP !! That’s silly ol’ me, hahahaha! 😀 😆
I like ALL my party hats !! I couldn’t pick just one. I had to wear them all!
I knew I would have to go all-out to have even the slightest chance of winning the party hat race this year against Oliver.
It’s so much fun.
Surely that made you smile… even just a little bit, right?!
And my birthday day was truly a happy day. I did all the things on that list from up there higher on this page. I made sure to NOT do anything stressful or scary or yucky, and I ONLY did things that were fun, and special, and happy. It is super cool to be able to create NICE memories, and GOOD times, and FUN days. Because I can do that — just like you can do that. I can be in charge of my Happy Day and decide what I want it to be like.
And I wasn’t going to let anyone ruin my Happy Day with bad stuff. No way — not MY Happy Day. No bad stuff allowed here !!
And you know what? If I can do that, YOU can do it too. Yep, for sure, and no doubt about it. Just make a big ol’ plan full of all the good stuff you like to do. Protect the time, and keep it special, just for you.
Even after my super-duper party was over, and I was plum wore out, and very tired, and had no more dancing feet left, and I was all flopped over, and couldn’t even keep my hats on straight, I still felt warm and snuggly and cozy in my heart.
Because you know, having a good day makes a lot of difference about how your feel. And when you are tired just because you had so much FUN, and when you’re all worn out and ready for a nap, and when your heart is so full of happy that it can’t get any more happy shoved into it, that kind of sleepy tired goodness is a special feeling too. It just feels extra nice and super cozy to be exhausted by FUN things.
Remember, if I can do it, YOU can do it too.
When are you going to have your super fun but exhausting HAPPY DAY ???
Oliver and I challenge YOU to have a day that is completely full of fun and goodness and laughter and playtime. Make time to wipe out all those bad memories by filling your day FULL FULL FULL of extra good stuff.
Oliver and I recommend it.
Especially if you’re wearing party hats. 😀
I wish you the FUNNEST time on your healing journey.
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