Do you remember when the readers of this blog were asking me to write an article that explained why it was easy to see DID ?
If you don’t recall this conversation, have a look back at the comments in the article, “How Many People Have Dissociative Identity Disorder”. That article sparked a very interesting conversation with a small group of blog readers.
And that conversation has had a lasting impact.
Because at that exact point in time – without their awareness – I was searching for the perfect topic to present in a Free Report that would be given to those who were willing to request ongoing information via my brand new email newsletter that was being developed.
An email newsletter!
I have been very excited to finally have a way to communicate with and stay connected to all the different folks – the unique souls, the quiet ones, the scared ones, the forgetful ones, the hidden ones, the dissociated ones, the students, the therapists, the supportive partners – anyone who come reading through this blog.
While my wonderfully skilled web technician worked the technical bits into reality, my job was to write. To write with quality.
One of my first goals was to create a written gift – a free report – to give the readers here. I needed to write something informational, full of meaning, something that would have an impact, something that would be helpful to the masses over an extended period of time.
I wanted the perfect topic.
The perfect topic for my Free Report.
The perfect Free Report to kick off the new Email Newsletter feature offered at the new blog platform.
(No pressure there, lol.)
So what does a perfect topic look like?
I needed a topic that was
- helpful for the DID survivors who read here
- helpful for the DID therapists who read here
- helpful for the students who are researching and newly learning about DID
- helpful for the family / spouses of the DID survivors who read here
I know there are at least these four different groups of folks reading here at Discussing Dissociation and the perfect topic needed to be valid or interesting for ALL the readers.
How on earth was I going to find a topic that would be of interest and value to all four of these different perspectives at the same time?
I was a bit stumped.
I was being picky, and nothing “just right” was coming to mind.
Then it happened – right before my very eyes, by you, the faithful readers of this blog.
Within a week of my searching and searching for the perfect topic, the blog conversation on “How Many People Have Dissociative Identity Disorder” took place.
One reader said,
“So Kathy.. Since it is obvious to you what to look for, questions to ask, we think it is important to put an article out there for professionals that DO have a willingness to see that.
We KNOW first hand the many high numbers of times we have been refused treatment just because of the misunderstanding of DID. Have had more than one psychologist refuse to treat because the “borderline issues” show up. More than 10 professionals we have seen run because of this.
The other part is fear. Professionals are not like you. They fear this. They freak when an angry part shows up in their office. They send a person away when a child part shows up that has been taught that death is the only option there is.. How sad is that!!!!
We highly suggest an article just for professionals about what to look for.. And questions to ask. They don’t teach that in school….”
And another reader said,
“The numbers of people living like this is enormous but, as everyone is saying – so many just don’t want to see. Of course they don’t want to see, as to see how many people have DID is to see and admit to how much harm apparently ordinary people in our society are doing to children they are supposed to care for…..
I’d be interested too Kathy – how would you put in writing “what to look for” – how to recognise someone with DID? I know I can see it so clearly in others now but, to put what it is I can see in words – that’s harder. It’s also the sort of thing that it probably wouldn’t help to have someone (who was not in a position to be able to provide a safe enough environment) say to a person who was not ready to hear it, or in a safe enough space to be able to recognise and own their parts yet. Would have to think a lot on how I would describe what it is I see in people with separate parts that makes them so obviously different from someone without parts, and would be really interested to read how you’d describe it.”
The whole discussion is powerful —
And I thank you.
Thank you, each of you who were writing comments for that article – because each of you has now helped to create what I think is a fantastic new resource for people interested in learning about DID.
Well done, all of you!
Why is it important to understand what DID looks like?
It is important to understand what DID looks like so you can address the issues you are experiencing with greater ease and with deeper kindness for yourself and for your insiders.
Knowing what is “normal” in the realm of DID will help you to understand that what you are experiencing is actually realistic, typical, not weird, understandable, and to be expected for someone who is dissociative.
The more you understand about DID, the more you can understand about your own system. You can use this information to find your insiders, or to support your insiders, to have empathy for them, and to help meet their needs.
And who needs to waste time in therapy trying to re-invent the wheel? Having guidelines and solid system information available for you can help save you time, money, energy, and resources in your therapy process. You won’t have to wander around so lost in the process if you have a little guidance.
DID is NOT Invisible
As you can see in the Free Report, there are many elements to DID, and when you put a majority of those elements together into one life picture, it’s easy to see.
The different insiders are visible.
The effects of having different lives are visible.
The effects of the trauma are visible.
DID is visible!
It really is okay to not have to feel invisible or hidden anymore. Maybe not everyone will see your insiders, and in many ways, it’s very important to not be showing your insiders to everyone. (Safety first, of course.)
But you can see your own insiders, which is the very most important piece of the puzzle. You getting to see and recognize your own system is the most important.
And once you know more about your own system, you may choose to allow the outside people who offer safety in your life to have the opportunity to see your system as well.
We will talk more about all this in the days, weeks, months to come.
Your Dissoci-ACTION steps are:
Please do enjoy your Free Report, 101+ Ways to See DID – Dissociative Identity Disorder Described. If you have any trouble downloading the report, contact me. Also, please note: you may need a PDF app on your phone if you are downloading the report on your mobile device.
Keep spreading the news to everyone you know who might need to see what DID looks like. If they can’t see DID, invite them to come here and sign up for their own copy of the report so they can learn more about DID.
Add the link for www.DiscussingDissociation.com to any forum or support group or therapeutic site that needs more quality information about DID. By working together, we can help teach the world what to see!
Post your comments, thoughts, questions, feelings about seeing DID at the bottom of this post. It’s always great to have more interesting discussion
And while you’re out there, have a good look around the world…. You just might see DID more often now!
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