During trauma recovery and the road to healing for dissociative trauma survivors, there is so very much focus on bad memories, abuse memories, body memories, painful memories, icky memories, difficult memories, vacant memories, your memories, their memories, nobody claims them memories….
Of course, this memory work is part of healing, and resolving the conflicts and heartbreak as much as possible is crucial. I understand that. However, it’s about as much fun doing memory work as it is going to the dentist to address chronic tooth pain. While the end result is positive, the treatment is painful, uncomfortable, difficult, and sometimes excruciating.
So as we are coming to the end of another year of your life, let’s focus in a different direction.
I know you know you’ve been hurt. I know and I know that this pain consumes you, so very much of your every single day. And most of you — well, probably all of you — have had new experiences this year that were still painful, heartbreaking, stressful, and sad. I sure have.
No year has been perfect for me, and I doubt it has been for you.
Ouch! Enough of that hard stuff.
So for awhile — just a little while — let’s take the time to think about something positive.
I know, for a fact, that something good has happened for you this year. It doesn’t matter how big or small, but I can guarantee you that something good has happened at some point in time this year.
Encourage your mind and every single everyone in your system remember the good times too!
- What are some of the good memories you will keep from this year?
- What is something you would like to remember?
- What happened this year that you are glad it happened?
- Did you have a “this is the best thing ever!” moment this year?
- What moments brought smiles to your heart?
I’ll share some of the happy and positive highlights from my year, in order of occurrence.
This little dog, Joe Bob, has brought hours and hours of joy into my life this year. He definitely helped to make happy days happen!
He has his own personality, his favorite games of tug o’war, his funny barks, and gentle hugs.
Oh, and those funny ears. How can they not make you smile ??!!! Those ears have definitely made this year great!
Thank you, Bobbsy!
I had the fortunate opportunity to spend time in an incredibly beautiful rainforest this year.
Nature, in all it’s splendor and beautiful colors brings joy to my everyday.
I would not enjoy life as much this year without having such natural beauty to see.
Oh, and I got to meet some very interesting birds this year! It may seem weird, but yes, birds have their own personality too. I spent quite some time with a wild peacock and his two girlfriends. They were entertaining!
Of course, meeting my new little grand daughter made the highlights!
All babies truly are innocent, and some little faces are just too precious! It’s a joy to see a little tiny new life loved and cared for. If only, if only, if only all parents were kind to their children…..
Of course, you all know my new puppies have made the list. No further explanation needed there!
These pictures represent just a very few of my good memories this year. I could post ooooodles more.
But I’m interested in hearing what was good in your year?
What did you enjoy this year?
And three cheers for a better year, every year!
I wish you the very best in your healing journey.
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