Happy Holiday Greetings!
I hope you have had a great holiday season so far. My hope is that you are making these days as beautiful and special for yourself as you can.
There are lots of ways to provide Christmas cheer for your DID system, even if you are in a rough spot.
Please read through this blog if you don’t know what I’m talking about.
Holidays are not always fun times for people who have experienced severe family dysfunction and chronic abuse. It can be as heartbreaking to feel family pain, rejection, chaos, and conflict as an adult as it was as a child.
You might have hoped those old troubled relationships could be or would be better by now.
And been sorely disappointed when they weren’t.
Man! That still smarts!!
So please know I’m thinking of you.
And thinking of the family troubles and struggles that continue year, after year, after year….
Please remember, that the best way to help your hurting heart is to step further away from the people that hurt you.
Be willing to let go of the old hurters in your life, and find the courage to build new relationships of positive, healthy, kind, and cheerful significance.
Do what you can do for yourself — and for your insiders — and with your healthy relationships to create something unique and memorable for your system this holiday season.
Start separating more and more, and more some more, from the people who hurt you. Then get creative and brave enough to build new relationships with those that don’t.
Hard choices…. Very hard. I completely get it. This is not an easy task.
But there are ways to have happy holidays! And happy unholidays too. You can have lots and lots of days that don’t have to be filled with repeated injuries from people that hurt you.
Be brave enough to decide enough is enough, and that you don’t have to comply with abusers anymore.
No more unhappy holidays for you — you can do better!
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