Letting Outsiders talk with your Insiders? By Kathy Broady MSW 6 Comments Hey! This is one of my favorite videos. Love the beach shack, and the unexpected insight. Do you remember what it was? Copyright © 2008-2018 Kathy Broady MSW and Discussing Dissociation Related Posts Letting Outsiders talk with your Insiders?Kathy's video comments. A few thoughts about outside people talking with the insiders of a… Kathy's Video Comment: Self Injury and Dissociative Identity DisorderA short video by Kathy from Discussing Dissociation, talking about self injury and dissociative identity… Kathy's Video Comments: Are You Switching in your Sleep?Short video about dissociative switching, dissociative amnesia, time loss while "sleeping". A must see for…
Can’t express the feelings of finding this website and other folks talking about DID. Some of the above comments are so true for us as well! The fear of having so much anger inside and the fear of talking about that anger to a therapist is scary to us for two reasons, one anger scares us and second, what if the anger doesn’t go away :/ and we don’t know how to express it in a healthy way and the child parts hold some of that anger. We just switched to an art therapist from a therapist who doesn’t treat DID. we have been out of therapy for some time (about 2 years) because our therapist retired and we didn’t want to start over and thought we had done enough work to have enough communication between ourselves. that was a mistake :/
The fear of letting some of my parts talk to this new therapist is overwhelming but sometimes we feel as if we are going to be destroyed by those angry parts if we don’t find a way for that to happen since we have been finding cuts on us and waking up in places or losing time that can’t be accounted for and this seems to be getting worse instead of better. We think if we could just really say how we feel to the new therapist it would be better. Trust is a huge problem for us and always has been and if somebody has any ideas how to get passed this barrier that would be awesome.
I have a serious problem, some of my alters will not surface and talk to my Psycotherapist and I need them to. I am still reliving flashbacks of incest of my dad that a previous Psycologist claimed happened to me, which he claims he learned through finger talking. I NEED to know if my dad did this because he died shortly after this Psycologist made the accusation. My current Psycotherapist says he cannot reverse what may have turned out to be the “power of suggestion” This Psycologist also claimed that God gave him this answer. Today is Dec 30 2015 and I just need to know how to get my alters to surface and talk to my Psycotherapist because some of my other alters are getting desperate and are feeling hopeless and starting to contemplate because they don’t remember the incest and cannot move ahead to healing until they get closer. Any thoughts anyone?
Kathy Broady says
Thanks for your comment — I have a few thoughts to pass on to you.
First… Considering how your system feels tricked / betrayed / misrepresented by your former therapist, I would assume your current therapist will have to work a zillion times harder to gain any trust from your inside. Your internal system will fear making a second mistake, and may very well be refusing to participate in the therapy process due to the first bad experience you mentioned.
So…. Work on building trust, in any way that you and your therapist can think to do. Why should they tell this therapist anything? Maybe you’ve got an answer for that. Also… Explore more with your insiders the consequences they felt / experienced after the confused disclosure to the first therapist. What reassurance do they need that the same mess won’t occur again?
Also… It is very ok, and even more important that your insiders speak to YOU, whether they ever speak to your therapist or not. What do you need to do to gain their trust? What need to happen for them to talk to you and to tell you what happened, or what didn’t happen?
Good and effective communication, especially internal communication, is essential for healing. If you are interested in learning further, please search the blog articles in the Internal Communication category. You might find some helpful ideas written out there in the various articles that delve into the topic.
Thanks again for writing, and good luck with progressing forward in your search for answers, healing, and peace.
My Others will talk to certain outsiders. Generally not, unless a switch is triggered because I don’t feel safe. Some of them have formed a trusting relationship with my b/f and will come out specifically to talk to him.. I don’t usually have any say in that. When I was seeing a psychiatrist, however, he refused to wither acknowledge or speak to any of the Others: which meant that I was not able to talk to him about what was happening
Talking through is what I’m specially talking about
This is a hot bed topic with me and it has been for years now! No ma’am this is unacceptable…..You don’t mix business with pleasure right? Normally, that doesn’t work right? I have a number of external introjects created from external people, why that is I’m not sure. I like how you described number 12 for the blog titled, 20 types of dissociative splits, although I don’t agree with it word for word. Why is this best approach outside of session or group some body set me up with I have not a earthly clue.
To answer your question from the metaphor above, it depends on how much chaos is present…For me, not much if any….Is the system safe where switching is allow, from my experience it can’t always be controlled…. This is what resonates maybe your metaphor is something else….I enjoy reading your material!
dont necessarily allow it. It happens often without my knowing it. I often discover it later when I am reminded about conversations that I don’t remember. I personally think it is not safe to allow it, when I power over it.