What do you think about violence?
It’s everywhere in our world.
As I’m writing this, there are news headlines about violence and riots in Baltimore Maryland. There have been violent racial riots in St. Louis Missouri making headlines for months. White police have been shooting innocent black men. A black teenager in Oklahoma shot and killed an innocent white Australian man. My news channel just showed a clip proposing that women need to take self defence classes as a basic health requirement. Child abuse, domestic violence, bullying adolescents to death, flogging attacks in social media, women being murdered, men dying in wars, cruelty to animals, convicted drug criminals getting executed in Indonesia, pedophiles abducting and killing children — violence of all forms is mentioned in the news over and over and over.
Frankly, I despise the violence found in this world.
I realize we as people will always disagree and have opposing opinions and various perspectives. That’s fine. We don’t have to agree. We can each hold true to our own beliefs and preferences. To each his own.
So do we really have to hurt each other when we have different opinions? Do we have to hit? Kick? Punch? Kill? Assault? Rape? Attack? Destroy? Go to war?
I don’t think so. I don’t see the glory or the pleasure in beating someone else up. In my opinion, it’s just flat out wrong to purposefully hurt someone else, “just because you can”. I find that containing and restricting violent criminals is absolutely necessary. If someone refuses to stop hurting others, then remove his or her option of being around others. The criminals can go beat each other up and let the rest of us live in peace and safety. Go take your violent self away from everyone else. Just get outta here and leave the rest of us alone!
If it was only that simple.
I obviously don’t have the answer for how fix to this world problem. I’m venting my disgust about all the ways people choose to “solve” their personal struggles by hurting someone else, by beating down someone else, in some form or another.
It seems to me that it’s a personal choice on whether to be violent or not.
Stand up for yourself, yes. But purposefully attack someone? No.
Life gets stressful, absolutely. Surely we can all learn how to solve our problems without hitting someone else in the process.
That message is directed to internal dissociative parts as well. Please don’t hit or hurt each other in your internal worlds. Your inside world no longer has to be filled with the violent ways of the external world. I understand that many insiders repeat the ways they were taught to behave by their violent perpetrators. However, now that you are becoming your own self and an adult out here in the external world, you can make your own guidelines for your internal world. If you disagree with a violent world, be consistent, and apply your principles of peace towards yourselves as well.
Here are 5 thoughts to consider:
If you need to quiet a crying child, comfort them gently, don’t hit them.
If you need to release some stress, try exercising, or drawing, or talking about it. Don’t hit someone else. And don’t hurt your own self either.
If you have strong beliefs, live your life accordingly. Accept that other people will have their own strong beliefs. Respect each other. Don’t force someone to pretend they believe what you believe.
If someone else is abusing you, find ways to get away from them. It’s ok and even necessary to leave your abuser. You don’t have to stay close to anyone that purposefully hurts you.
If you don’t like what’s happening in your life, replace the negative with something you like much better. Your life can be filled with as much beauty as you can put in it. Purposefully surround yourself with peace, beauty, goodness, calm.
In my opinion, if you specifically spend time day filling your life with things that create a genuine smile on your face and in your heart, you will be getting closer to living a life filled with peace and happiness. I like that idea.
Personally, I much prefer puppies over violence.
What do you think?
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