It’s getting closer to Halloween, and as October happens, I’m quite sure that many of you are struggling with trauma memories, flashbacks, body memories, and the whole range of PTSD symptoms after experiencing trauma and abuse.
Sometimes it feels like the trauma will never end!
But it does.
I promise you, it does end. It can end, and it does end.
You haven’t lived forever so the trauma hasn’t and won’t exist forever. You may very well feel stuck in time, and that’s particularly uncomfortable, and yet, if you are reading this blog today, I can guarantee you that at some point in time, you were able to get away from the most recent trauma episode you experienced in your life.
The fact that you are sitting in the place where you see this blog now proves you were able to get away and leave the place of that abusive, traumatic situation. You are HERE now. You can remember then, all too easily, but right at this moment, you are here, reading with me. I am very sure you weren’t reading this article when those bad things happened. That was then, and that terrible trauma ended. You left that place, and / or the abuser person left that place.
Make sure everyone on the inside knows this. Don’t assume they all know this because I guarantee some of them won’t be able to see this difference. The recognition of time change is crucial for your healing.
Time distortion is a complicated experience for dissociative trauma survivors. In the inside world, time can stop. It can be the same time today as it was 10-20-30 years ago. What happened then can feel as fresh and new as if it happened today.
The time confusion for dissociative trauma survivors continues especially when today feels disconnected, unreal, depersonalized, and distant.
So today doesn’t feel real, but 1973 does.
And you might not remember this morning, but you can remember everything from that bad day in 1987.
Ummmmm…. How confusing is that!
Watch this video called Yesterday Today Tomorrow for more comments on this time distortion, time confusion, and Dissociative Identity Disorder.
Yesterday, Today, Tomorrow.
Work hard with your insiders to connect them to now. Without a lot of work on your part, your inside world may always feel stuck in time, and your insiders may stay completely tangled into the reality of the abuse they experienced in the past. But outside time never stops. Outside world time keeps moving along whether you recognize that on the inside or not.
Help your insiders to see the outside world as it is now. Help them to see they live somewhere else. Help them to see new things in the world they’ve never seen. Help them see that “bad guy” is no longer in the room.
Connecting your internal system with the reality of today is essential for your healing.
This is now. That was then.
That was then. This is now.
These are extremely important distinctions to learn for dissociative trauma survivors.
I wish you the best in your healing journey.
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