Hey – hello hello today,
I’m trying some new things, and I have made a short video of myself talking about the last blog entry. This video is specifically for adult survivors of sexual abuse.
10 Truths for Adult Survivors of Sexual Abuse
These are big brave steps for me to put myself out on a video. All disclaimers needed!
I’m very new at making simple home-made videos, so there’s no fancy tricks, just me chattering some of my thoughts. Practice makes perfect, they say.
Well, I haven’t practiced enough to make a perfect video, but it seems important enough to share in a very real way, so… I’m going for it.
Very serious topic for a first video.
I hope you find this helpful.
For Adult Survivors of Sexual Abuse:
Please note: I’ve got more videos on their way. 🙂
Please check out my new YouTube channel, simply called: Discussing Dissociation.
Thank you for your interest, for caring, for doing your healing work. I hope you find these videos helpful, supportive, and encouraging.
Keep on watching!
And as always, I wish you the very best in your healing journey.
Copyright © 2008-2021 Kathy Broady MSW and Discussing Dissociation
Ummmm….finally broke down and watched this…couldn’t for a long time because I would get so confused as to what “abuse” was….figured that if I wasn’t beat black and blue or ended up in the hospital – then it wasn’t “abuse”…. past “relationships” we were in we had this horrible undercurrent feeling of being “used”….that we were no more than an “object”….and we were “supposed” to numbly submit…our feelings, perspectives, input was not valued or even really tolerated…we were just “there”….
It seemed like there was a “bulls-eye” on us to be “used”….. we wouldn’t like what we were “seeing” and “feeling” but could not get any “concrete enough” evidence to give us the ability to leave until Rage would hit and then we would be gone……There would be SO MUCH conflict Inside….we were “seeing” wrong, we will get into MORE trouble if we speak up, we are “supposed” to let it happen, and on and on until we were a confused mess who had no ability to do anything but go numb….we would “watch” what was happening to us and HATE it – but confusion of perspective paralyzed us…..
It was still gut-wrenching to hear how you are supposed to be “valued” and most of all to “value” yourself….it made us want to cry…because we couldn’t figure out what we were “supposed” to feel….how do you act like you “feel” something if you don’t know what it feels like?……everything is so Twilight-Zoney – how do you know what is “real”?….
Sometimes I wish I could go back and “re-do” my life…but I am afraid I would STILL make the same mistakes because the “light” just hasn’t come on for me yet…..confusion still “reigns”….get confusion out of the way and I might could do it……
I Just recently discovered, after reading old therapist notes , that sexual assault happened to this body in the 90s. It would of already been married about 10 years. That this body chose not to press charges, the note said we felt We needed to continue working for hospice. Because it was committed to the patient until he died.
Shouldn’t we been committed to ourselves, shouldn’t we have worried about us. Shouldn’t we have got help? .
So I’m trying to soak up your words from your video. And not be self judgmental. It hard reading the old statements to why we were justifying the right to stay committed to that job and justifying the rights of not reporting it.
we watch this video a lot
Im still learning.
We keep watshing it but we dont get it yet sory 🙁
I really, really like the video format. I find it comforting even with difficult topics. Thanks Kathy.
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Kathy Broady says
Hi hi hi to you! It’s wonderful to hear from you. :). I hope you are doing well. And doing well.
Thank you for your comment. And I’m really glad to hear that the video format is helpful. I’m still so very dorky at filming, lol, but I’ve got a few more in mind, so… Thanks for letting me know they work for you. I shall continue on… 🙂
So good to hear from you.
Why you got maizy on you head katheylady?
Kathy Broady says
I think Maizy wanted to be a hat that day. 🙂