The article 25 Ways to Avoid Self-Injury and Prevent Self-Harm is one of the all-time top searched, top-viewed articles on the Discussing Dissociation blog.
That fact alone proves the importance and the necessity of learning how to address self harm issues.
For dissociative trauma survivors, it is important to learn how to manage all levels of intensity, from everyday life to the toughest internal challenges to the most horrific memories. And…. it’s important to learn how to manage all this emotional intensity without resorting to more injury to the self, the body, or the system.
You’ve already survived a bucket load of violence. It wasn’t okay that so much violence happened to you.
It’s certainly not necessary to continue or maintain that pattern of violence, not even to yourself, or toward any of your insiders. It’s also important to make sure that no one else inside your system hurts anyone else in your inside system.
It’s critically important to protect ALL of your insiders, from outside harm, and from self-directed harm, and from internal harm.
Self harm of any kind hurts your system.
It’s violence, and the violence has to stop.
It’s a big big job to learn how to not let pain and self-directed violence be your best friend. It’s a big hurdle to learn — to know, to believe — that you do NOT deserve pain, injury, violence, or punishment.
These are new ways of thinking.
New ways of living.
And…. you can learn these things.
Start small, but you can do it.
I like this idea:
First… Do No Harm.
Not even to yourself.
Hopefully, these very helpful tips and ideas shared by T.Clark will make a positive difference for your day, and for your mindset.
T.Clark’s words are important — I’ll re-state them here on the page in case there is any difficult reading the words on the image.
New Realities to help us stop self-harm:
Feelings are survivable and containable.
We have art, reading, distractions, therapist, meds
We deserve to feel better.
We don’t need to guarantee pain.
We don’t have to hurt via self-abuse
Our trauma is over. Why continue it?
We don’t have to stand vigil over pain to honor abused parts.
We will honor our abused parts with self-compassion, understanding, acceptance, encouragement
As T.Clark says in the comments below, “First rule: BE KIND.”
I wish you safety and compassion in your healing journey.
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