Hello to everyone,
This week I was digging around looking and looking and looking for that one thing that I put somewhere where I would never lose it…. (and yes, of course, I simply could not remember where that particularly important never-to-be-forgotten filing place was, argh!!!!) …. but in searching and searching and searching, I found several other treasures I hadn’t seen in quite some time.
One re-discovered treasure was an article printed in “Many Voices”, April 1994.
This article, called “100 Strengths I Have” was submitted by Kimberly B. and was an exercise done in an out-patient group I had at that point in time.
We used an exercise described in the book Journal To the Self by Kathleen Adams, M.A. The goal of the exercise was to list out 100 positive qualities that each group member found in his or herself, or a positive quality they recognized in trauma survivors with Dissociative Identity Disorder. Each person was to come up with at least 10 positive traits — no editing allowed. As a group, we called out our positive ideas, one at a time. Any repeats were allowed. My thinking was that if the same positive trait was mentioned more than once, then it was a particularly strong strength, and in being so, it could have the extra recognition it deserved. We wrote our list out.
I liked seeing this list, and while some of you may have seen the 1994 Many Voices publication, there is a great big chance that most of you haven’t. I have decided to publish it here, and hopefully, it will be good for you to see as well.
What strengths do people with Dissociative Identity Disorder (DID / MPD) have? Here are the first 32 (column one), listed in the exact order and the exact wording that we spoke of them in our group that day, nearly 20 years ago.
1. An affinity for animals
2. A protectiveness of others
3. Broad life experiences
4. High tolerance for pain
5. More coping skills
6. Incredibly polite!
7. Willing to oblige other people
8. Investigative skills
9. Good bullshit indicators
10. Connecting skills
11. Able to handle pressure
12. Block out distracting or hard stuff
13. Many talents
14. Many interests
15. Lots of different clothes
16. Different hair do’s!
17. Different hair colors!
18. Different attitudes towards things, perspectives
19. Being able to figure out people easily
20. Self-adjusting and monitoring — no batteries required
22. Learn not to care so much what other people think
23. Protective of others
27. Spiritual; sense of hope and faith
28. Realize life isn’t black and white
29. Ability to deeply feel
30. Ability to perceive more around us
31. Outsmarted our abusers
32. Don’t take things for granted
Isn’t that an excellent list?
This is only one-third of the list, the first column from the Many Voices publication, but it is a great great start. I will post this much to get it out there, and continue with the next 70 items in future posts.
AND, before the whole list is out there, I want to invite the readers of this blog to add your list of 10 positive qualities for being dissociative to this list, and I will post them along too, and the new and improved list of strengths.
If YOU have ideas to add to the list, please do write your thoughts out in a comment, because it is true.
There ARE good things about being dissociative.
There ARE good things about your life, about your, about your abilities, about yourself, about your talents, about your thoughts.
You DO have lots of positive qualities.
What positive qualities can YOU add to this exercise?
I’d like to hear your thoughts!
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