Having a lot of selves.
Different from everyone else.
What’s wrong with that? Nothing at all.
This strawberry is beautiful.
It really “makes you look”!
This strawberry is truly amazing.
How did it grow in so many separate directions all at once?
Have you ever seen such a unique strawberry?
Isn’t it interesting?
I think it is mega-cool.
I thought maybe this strawberry was a plural-minded strawberry, a single strawberry filled with all kinds of internal strawberries, representing all sorts of different experiences.
This strawberry seems to be many strawberries all at once.
It just has to be a dissociative strawberry-multiple, don’t you think?
We all are familiar with the usual strawberry — those perfectly shaped red bursts of juicy goodness.
What about the strawberries that are completely different from all the other strawberries?
I think they are fascinating.
And different can be wonderful.
Different is important.
And necessary. And a fact of life.
Do you recognize yourself in these unique strawberries?
If you have Dissociative Identity Disorder (DID/MPD), you may very well relate to these strawberries. Not only are these strawberries different from the usual “normal” strawberry, they are also unique from each other.
Each part of your system is also going to be unique.
You wouldn’t have so many insiders if they were the same.
What would be the point of splitting off the same someone over and over again? Each of your insiders would have been created with variety, with purpose, out of necessity. As you needed someone to manage a difficult situation different than what anyone else could manage, you would create your next system-someone.
What about the strawberries with blemishes?
What about the strawberries that have had some rough times?
Do you know what it feels like to have bumps and bruises?
Can you relate to the less than perfect strawberries? Have you felt dirty, or broken, or weird, or crushed?
What do you do with those feelings?
DID systems need every single everyone in the system.
Everyone has done an important job and has had a specific role that has helped with your overall functioning. Everyone in your system is valuable. Everyone in your system has made their very own unique contribution to the survival of your life events.
The article, 20 Types of Dissociative Splits may help you to recognize the strengths of everyone internally.
In the meantime, celebrate the uniqueness of each of your inner people, and how the whole of them let you be the unique and wonderful person that you are.
It’s okay to be you. All of you.
Copyright © 2008-2017 Kathy Broady MSW and Discussing Dissociation