This mailbox on the side of the road is clever.
Silly. Ridiculous. Funny.
What a nice way to get your mail each day. It’s big enough for mail, and probably waterproof too. And certainly creative.
This Hotmail Mailbox made me giggle so I had to share it, just for fun.
You might think there could not be any parallels with Dissociative Identity Disorder in this picture but a few thoughts have come to mind for me. I took it on as a personal challenge. How could I not find some significant way to make this ridiculous picture fit into this oh so educational blog and the DID theme?!! I had to do it justice, yes?
So here are my efforts:
Most of us out here in the blog world enjoy getting fun emails so okay, that’s generic to a lot of people, but of course, it’s always good to get nice mail. And it really is okay to lump the dissociative community in with the normal, regular, everyday world. So really, that’s already two parallels in one. 😆
Every single dissociative person I have ever met has been a creative person, and there are dozens of ways to be creative. Most people think of the artistic abilities, or musical talents, or being able to sew or cook or build. All these areas are definitely creative.
But DID survivors are creative within themselves. They are immensely creative in the ways they have made their own unique selves, their internal worlds, and their systems of people.
DID’ers have created numerous different people, all with different voices, and mannerisms, and facial expressions, and words of expression, and hand writings, and hair styles, and fashion preferences, and and and.
It’s really not easy to think of being so many different people all at once, and developing all those lives with all their separate interests, etc.
You all know I understand the beginnings of splitting, but these thoughts are further down the track than the traumatic starting places of being plural people.
My point is, I don’t think many “singletons” could purposefully design, create and develop as many characters if they wanted too. Some of the most famous Hollywood actors and actresses have barely been able to do this, but even many of them look like the same character over and over, just in a different story and new setting. DID survivors are much more creative than that.
3. Concrete literal thinking.
Most DID survivors have at least a few littles in their system who have very concrete thoughts. “Hot Mail” — with a microwave as the mailbox — is an example of concrete thinking.
Another example of concrete thinking is this: saying “It’s raining cats and dogs” and the little one in the DID system runs to the window, looking for kittens and puppies.
It can be difficult and complicated to remember this when speaking with adult trauma survivors.
Many times, the other person simply assumes the trauma survivor understands abstract thought, and typically, there will be many in the system that do, of course. However, there will be others in the system that still think in very concrete terms, and this can sneak up into more everyday conversations than you might expect. Metaphors, figures of speech, and slang phrases should be used with a grain of salt (ha ha ha). Or, remember to consider the literal meaning of what you are saying, and then check your communication difficulties. This could be having a significant impact.
4. Sense of humor.
And yes, many dissociative trauma survivors have a great sense of humor.
Between the moments of depression, anxiety, self-harm, and suicidal thoughts, there are always some other ones in the system that are particularly funny and good at making people smile and laugh. It’s a great talent to have, especially while living a life full of pain, and I give these parts a big round of applause.
With all silliness aside…
- What do you see in these pictures that relate to Dissociative Identity Disorder?
- What fun thoughts do you have?
- What examples of clever, creative, concrete thinking have you seen?
I hope you are having a better day!
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