Hello, how are you today? Are you reading from your painful past, or are you here, in a painful present? Does it feel like the here-and-now? Or the way back when? Or is Then the same as Now?
I’ve been thinking about this topic of Past vs Present for awhile now. I know I have written about time distortion, memory recall, flashbacks, body memories, trauma processing and all those things before. (Please have a peek at the List of All Articles page.)
Even so, a few more comments about such a difficult topic is still warranted.
The point is, this stuff just doesn’t seem to go away. It repeats. And repeats. And repeats itself…
So yes, one of the very most painful aspects of Dissociative Identity Disorder (DID / MPD), in my opinion, is the way some of the most difficult, heart-breaking and distressing events in life appear to be caught forever in the present. These don’t have to be the most horrific or violent abuses. Sometimes these are the situations that created the most heartache, or came from the deepest losses.
“Put the past in the past” and “Let bygones be bygones”. Easy to say, but for dissociative trauma survivors, how does this happen?
Does it happen? Can it happen?
Or will the past stay stuck tight to Now more often than not?
It is difficult to feel comfort and healing from hurts when the hurts still feels as real today as they did ten or twenty, thirty or forty years ago.
It is difficult to move forward when the pictures of How-It-Was are constantly vivid and present and smacking you in the face over and over again.
Not to mention the nightmares and dreams and flashbacks. Talk about re-living painful scenes! Ouch!
With this happening, the list of “Bad Days” or painful anniversaries grows and grows over time. As each passing year adds its contributions to the “Bad Days” calendar, more and more days of every year are painful rememberings of difficult times.
Time loses meaning. What time is it when time feels the same all the time?
For DID survivors, time stays in the now, and doesn’t necessarily retreat into the past. Instead of life as a single melody line, life feels like a complex chord of notes. There are many times at once.
How complicated is living when you are living in 1968, 1979, 1983, 1992, 1997, 2001, 2013, and 2018 all at the same time!!
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How do hurts get healed when time keeps them current?
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How do conflicts get resolved when time keeps them current?
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How do insiders become connected to Now when they live in Then?
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What do you do when life is like this?
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How do you manage?
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Does it feel like you are moving forward?
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Does it matter if you are “moving forward”?
Maybe staying connected to the past is a necessary part of your life.
Maybe that is okay. Maybe your brain just works like this, and you are better at remembering than other people.
I am sorry it hurts so much — I know that part is not okay. The pain can often feel unbearable. And comforting the heartbreak, and tending to the physical wounds (experienced both inside and outside) are crucial parts of the healing journey.
But maybe you are who you are, and all the parts of your mind-body-system are allowed to have their lives, whatever time frame they are in. Let them each have the time they need to process their hurts. They need to remember, and they need you to listen to them, to hear them, to understand them.
I do think the individual selves in your system each need time to talk-draw-feel and heal on their own. As each of your system members do their own healing, the whole of you will hopefully not have to re-live as much over and over.
There is another piece to this process.
It’s not just about learning about the past.
While it is important to hear their stories from the past, yes, it is also helpful and important to get grounded here in the present. And to help those insiders stuck in the past to connect to NOW, to HERE, to TODAY.
It’s a swapping of important information — you learn about then, and they learn about now.
In a sense… you flash BACK to catch up on what you missed. And they need to flash FORWARD to catch up to now, and the information they missed.
That’s what helps connect your system together. It lets everyone know the information and allows you to function better as a whole.
How do you connect your past with your present? What happens for you and your system?
If you have any helpful thoughts, your comments are appreciated.
I wish you much comfort in your healing journey.
Warmly,
Kathy
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we are currently dealing with a newly surfaced alter, possibly two of them in fact, that have no idea that time has passed since their time of trauma. Mouse, when we can coax her to open her eyes, sees strange unfamiliar scary surroundings. She is also mute, for the most part, which makes communication a challenge. What we do is acknowledge and validate her feelings while at the same time repeatedly reassure her that she is now in a safe place, that nothing bad can happen to her here in the present, though we’re pretty sure she doesn’t quite understand that concept yet.
We tell her, for example, that yes you are in a bedroom, but this a different bedroom than the one where mommy hurt you. We talk about the differences, look, see there are no yellow window blinds here, the door is always open, and have her hold Duffy bear. Did you hold Duffy bear in the scary bedroom? No you didn’t, did you? We know you are scared and don’t really know where you are but this is a different bedroom, a very very safe bedroom where nobody bad is ever allowed. Things like that. It seems to be slowly helping.
So more night falls . Then it will be the 20th day. 20th year and will reach the 20th. Hour. Once again. I will travel on the 20th in hopes nobody can find me. I will go on a 1400mile ride. To avoid being detected. It makes it convenient that the first. 700 hundred I will have a passenger the 20th hour will hit when I’m. Returning to my home base. But still far enough away at the point that I can’t be found.
I really need this year to end . I don’t want to keep fearing 20-20-20
we be practicing hard to swoosh the bad energy off our body. we toaght that man here how we learned it so he can know if he see us doing it.
The past comes back when the year that pain is to be inflicted on oneself is here . When the phone rings and you see the caller Id says Area 51. So you think that what it says. Later after the panic and the explosion of emotions calm down, several hours later. You look and see the caller ID really says area151. More hours pass. You have somebody else listen to the message. Finding out it’s just a Robo call to change your electric rate.
I was unaware this was even a issue. The Entire system so I believe exploded into a fearful space.? I know the system parts can have panic attack sometimes. I myself have only member experience in them a couple times.
My therapist says wall are falling and I’m starting the Journey of living united. That today has opened up a Opportunity for growth. For the simple fact that it’s possible that all within the system is dealing with the same issue. Since it was a tremendous trigger and a tsunami of emotions that been affecting the entire system. We are using ever tool in our tool chest to stay here in the now.
Hang in there, Reboot! We know about the “tsunamis” too….UGH! Hard to get through…it all feels SO REAL at the time – you can’t see anything else….As it dies down, you are left floundering with what was “real” and what wasn’t…..and you can’t explain anything that will make sense to anybody else…..all you know is that it shook you to the core…..
Hang in there, Reboot!….bit by bit understanding will come…..yep! It’s growth…but there are sure “growing pains” with it……Glad you have a therapist to work with….
MissyMing
04/24/20
This is all so new. I don’t even know what to think or feel most the time. It hurts not knowing whats going on or how to fix it. I have a great couple that is a support ot me, like new parents, and they love me and are hellping so much. This article shares how it feels for me sometimes… still 1984, yet it isn’t. 🙁
Krystal
Hi Krystal,
Wow … have you ever landed in the right place! When you first get your DID diagnosis you feel like your world has just gone over-the-edge crazy. There is so much to learn and understand about DID and your own system. It feels overwhelming and darn impossible at times. But, I am here to tell you that it gets more manageable with time. It takes a whole lot of work though but it is worth it.
These are the blog articles that I found most helpful when I was just starting out (there is a search function on the right-hand column of each webpage):
50 Treatment Issues for Dissociative Identity Disorder
10 Steps for Doing Healing Work with Your DID System
What Do You Need to Know About Dissociative Identity Disorder?
Internal Communication is Critical
20 Types of Dissociative Splits
We are a community of survivors here Krystal all with unique stories but sharing so much of the common experience of abuse and living with DID. We are here to speak our truth, listen, support and give a helping hand when we can. I hope that you will feel encouraged to share here. You are not alone.
Oh, a place that we post on anything and everything is the blog:
“2. Still Our Normal Complicated Selves — Keep on Writing!”
Kind of our go-to place when we are wondering where to post.
So nice to hear from you Krystal!
ME+WE
12/09/18
Hello Krystal,
One of my biggest struggles with this diagnosis is there is no textbook case . we are all individuals. No two systems of the same so there’s really nothing to comparet to . I often wonder is my healing process is on target with everybody else. I’m constantly told I am right where I need to be. Yes we are moving forward. I can’t rush things.i need to move at a pace that is manageable. As hard has this is, it’s kept the body out of the hospital or day programs we
Are not in a constant state of panic.
Like everyone else here I have had D.I.D for most of my life. Learning I had it. It’s been 27 years. I still feel I feel I know nothing about it. Not becuse of lacking for a good therapist . It’s just so much to learn .
Hi Krystal,
It DOES hurt not knowing how to fix something. I feel so helpless most of the time. It doesn’t seem real, it just feels like it’s coming from left field, like I’m Alice in Wonderland descending deeper and deeper into the rabbit hole. The ONLY thing that keeps me on track, well two things, is my faith and my therapist. I’m glad you have surrogate parents that providing care and concern for you. But if you haven’t already, I really encourage you to get a therapist that specializes in trauma.
Time distortion is the worst. It makes my head hurt. Trying to stay present here and now is really hard, especially when you’re triggered or having a flashback. Sometimes I grab onto something that is from the hear and now and I focus on it, knowing that it came from the now, and not from the past. For instance, I have a therapy fidget toy that I got off of Amazon, that is bumpy. The texture of the toy helps ground me because I’m feeling something in the hear and now.
Anyway, please keep processing here if you’d like. Hopefully we can offer support for you here.
May you have peace and comfort always.
MultipleMe
12/10/18
We had are Consult withKathy Monday night. For those that could tolerate it. Say they feel relief with in themselves. For people like me that ended up in a state of not remembering the rest of the conversation was kind of heartbreaking . I wanted so much to hear what she had to say. I’m disappointed in myself that I couldn’t tolerate it.
I really do dislike when and automatic switch happens. Sometimes I can feel it getting about ready to happen, then I can fight to control it.
How can I fix this? Maybe it will fix on its own when it’s the right time. Maybe I just need to stop beating myself up over not being able to stick with the answers that I wanted to hear
Oh I’m sorry Lori or am I,
Dont beat yourself up over something you cant help. It wouldn’t be helpful and the more you get frustrated by it the more it will happen. IMO anyway. When I talk to someone and need to remember everything said and know there is a big chance I wont be able to stay and be grounded, I record the conversations. I have an app on my phone and turn it on before I answer the call. It helps so so so much. I ask the other person if its ok so they know they are being recorded. Never had a problem with Kathy or other Ts cuz they know that Im doing it to help us remember. Maybe for the parts of the conversation yous had that you yourself cant remember, Missy or Sissy, or someone else inside does remember and can write them out for you. IDK, just a thought. Sometimes I write down questions, just simple ones, and ask inside if there is anybody who wants to answer they can write them and I dont even have to know who it is if they dont want me to. Sometimes I get answers, sometimes not. This is hard and disappointing for you and Im sorry. One thing is you now know areas that can use some creative help and yáll can brainstorm what might work and try all of them until you find one that fits. Eventually you will build tolerance for being present and grounded, it takes practice (little steps at a time) and adjustments and creative tools to help you along the way. Take Care Of Yous.
KenKen
It was with my therapist also . So I do have a good r resource to retrieve information from. The last think I rember is talking about trauma, in hopes to help me with understanding with why I’m not the birth Lori Other parts got to have good memories with Kathy.
I wish I could do something to protect you right now. I want to reach out and stop the pain you are going through. I hear you were ready and willing and wanted to be there. You want to have personal memories of entire conversations and experiences. You were there for a good portion of the conversation. That can give you hope. It’s possible and you are capable. I also hear you are trying to breach the void and knock down walls between you and others inside your system. And I hear you are confused and afraid. I so wish you didn’t have to go through all this. But I am impressed that you are. You are so much stronger than you realize, Lori or am I.
Lori or am I,
I’m so sorry you weren’t able to stay with Kathy on the call. It can be so frustrating when you want to stay present and you can’t. Please don’t beat yourself up about it though. It’s not your fault. It’s how your system is wired to handle tough times. Maybe it got really intense and your parts wanted to help protect you a bit. Is it possible that they can share what happened with you? So you’re in the loop? I’m glad they feel relief, but there might have been something you wanted to ask too. Please just don’t beat your precious self up about it. You’re doing the best you can and I think it might end up being a good thing that you had some insiders that got help too.
MultipleMe
9/18/18
MultipleMe
Thank you I will let her know what you said.
Hi Lori or am I,
I just want to support what KenKen and MultipleMe have said here Lori. At the best of times, I only remember a fraction of what goes on in my therapy sessions. I switch out and BAM I am down the rabbit hole and one of my insiders is having the session. In trying to build cooperation and consciousness with them I point out that I am the one paying for the session so I should at least get a small part of it … hahahaha.
All kidding aside, I am often upset that I cannot remember what was said. My T points out that it is only sensible that I would dissociate in session given that we are talking about all of the trauma and triggering parts of my life. So, I would like to pass that along to you Lori. It is not surprising that you dissociated and cannot remember parts of the session as you. That means that you were able to talk about vital parts of your trauma with Kathy and that the insiders who are on duty for those traumas came out. That shows that you all had a lot of trust in Kathy and were willing to really let her in. That is great. And, remember also that your insiders talking and healing with Kathy means that you were healed as well. It may not be as tangible but it is no less real for you too.
ME+WE
09/20/18
I had dissociative memory from early abuses that have clarified many memories and explained numerous aversions over the past 18 months via CPTSD counsel in CBT, and group therapy. And I added EMDR myself which really reduces flashback intensity for me. But I wonder if my parts are internalized so that I am the only one noticing the dissonance. A tyrranical sister voice was revealed via CBT a year ago, and no longer bothers me. An overwhelmed and hopeless part is triggered by a certain topic, but I’m not sure it will stop. There were 10 personality traits or emotions that came to my memory piece by piece last year, though it was not called DID; these were thought to be memory emergences that would clarify over time and through journaling more of my history.
Is my description different than DID?
Kathy, do you have D.I.D. your article on when the painful past is the painful present, you just seem to understand, how? do you understand so well? you just seem to get it
Hi mkmfrommnandwi,
I get asked that a lot, and no, I promise I do not have DID or a dissociative disorder. I’m not quite sure I can answer how or why “I get it” — coz I just do. Mind you, there are plenty of things in this world I don’t get. For example, I do NOT understand the depths of why addicts are addicts — I don’t understand why someone would drink themselves to death — so you know, that’s not my specialty by any means. But dissociative stuff just sorta makes sense to me. AND… I’ve spent so many years deep in the trenches with so many dissociative people. That builds understanding, of course. And some of my own life experiences, even tho’ I’m not dissociative, life has certainly thrown some difficult and painful curve balls at me, so you know… heartache, pain, stress, and trauma can show up in many ways…so I take what I experience, and think about it from there.
It’s very healing to speak with people who do “get it”, so I’m glad you can see that in the words I put out onto this blog. That’s good. I’m happy to hear that.
Here are hopes and wishes that your pain lessens soon…
Warmly,
Kathy
Thank you Kathy and Blessed Easter to you and yours. I went to service today expecting to visit just a few minutes with the Snr Pastor of the church I had been attending off and on, he CLAIMS to “get it” but I found that as my therapist said, this pastor was arrogantly claiming to know all about D.I.D. but does not, I ended up eventually getting hurt by this pastor which just caused addition pain on top of pain from previous pastors yrs past, and I THOUGHT we had mended things, until my 3 yr old child part which had surfaced more than usual in the past week was shunned by this pastor today when he promised Thurs to give her some time today and when it came time to have some time he said no, I won’t and I won’t be here next week, ouch! well children don’t take kindly to adults hurting them it’s “inside” inner alters trying to trust outside help and then this happens and especially ones that are pastors claiming they prefer talking to my child parts because they are special and easier than the older ones because the older ones don’t take “garbage” from some and the older ones give it back especially to pastors who brag and hide behind Jesus. So when my 3 yr old got shunned by him, she has been destroyed and seriously depress all day and night yet, which made the previous priest abused worst by his hurting her and thinking nothing of it. He doesn’t realize that he sees her the same way the priest, bishop did before the abuse happened, He THINKS that some in here see him as the past abuser, “transference stuff” which is NOT the case, more like it’s his excuse to be rude lately. I wish this Snr pastor would realize that he behavior toward my 3 yr old is very similar to the one the hurt this body in the past, kind of like he thinks it transference but in reality it’s he is more interested in my child part and she is some how more special to him than the other alters so he encourages her to come out more, did I explain that right?
I agree that what Kathy wrote, was on point! Something you just said gave me am “AHA” moment. You said that the pastor “shunned” your three year old self, that really hit home for me, because it is for me a shameful feeling. I now understand why I get so mad and even hurt, if I unable to easily secure a drs appt, or any appt, or easily get through tasks set for the day. It is my child part. I am newly diagnosed DID-PTSD and I know I have different parts, but it’s hard for me to distinguish them, as it’s all I’ve ever known. I have times where I am so distraught, and confused, or get angry so quickly, or can’t drive, I forget familiar places and where I am, I realize it’s my child. It’s the feeling of shame, not being accepted, shunned. They are in the forefront for me when I’m in the midst of flashbacks and memory recalls. Thank you for writing, you really helped me to understand better.
Time stops. And keeps you stuck there. Time go by so slow. It feel like being stuck in tar. The hole world moves on esept us. We gona stay stuck here forever i think. This hard time dont ever gonna end.
I have a little part who is stuck in the past….to her, the trauma is still happening, even though it’s been over for 20+ years……I don’t know how to help her…..or if I can…..
Hi Mindy Lou,
Welcome to Discussing Dissociation, and thanks for posting.
That’s a very difficult but “normal” situation for someone with dissociative identity disorder. And Yes, you absolutely can help her. Keep reading through this blog because it’s filled full of ideas for how to help your insiders who are caught in the past. You have found her and recognized the problem, that’s the first big big step, so well done. Keep talking with her, show her other parts of your inside world and your outside world.
There are lots of articles here about working with child parts. Search thru the blog. You’ll find gobs of ideas on internal communication too.
Keep at it! She needs your help. No one, inside or out, needs to be stuck in trauma.
Warmly,
Kathy
My constant “visual” experience is that “the sidewalk rolls up behind me” such that a sense of continuity is nonexistent. I certainly do not wish this for anyone else, but I must admit that it helps me feel less alone to know that there are others who understand how painful and disorienting this is. It reinforces a sense that every human encounter is fleeting and not worth more than distant (very distant!) observation- at best. Though, perhaps the flip side is that I *should* CHERISH and savor them in the moment because they are fleeting… May the sidewalk lead us all to peace and better health! Glad my sidewalk led me here…
Thanks for writing, Turnstile13,
Strong metaphor — well described. I’m sure there are lots of folks out here who can relate to what you are describing. That does sound painful. And difficult.
I like that you can find positive ways to approach this tho. When there are con’s, it’s good to find the pro’s!
I wish you the best in your journey.
Warmly,
Kathy
wjkjd
My dad is not doing very well and I know his days are numbered. I don’t know how I’m going to handle this.
Wanda,
Thanks for writing, and I hear your pain. I’m so very sorry…
Losing a parent is very very difficult, no matter the circumstances.
Surround yourself with a supportive environment now, ahead of time… look for resources, support groups, blogs to read, books to read, journals to write, etc. The more you can emotionally prepare yourself, the better you’ll manage when the time comes.
I wish you the best, and please keep reading….
Warmly,
Kathy
“If you have any helpful thoughts, your comments are appreciated.” Not sure my combined effort at answering the questions posed is `helpful`….they`re only answers so will leave that to you to decide if we`re welcome / not welcome.(?)
“Time loses meaning.” How true.
“What do you do when life is like this?” Truthfully? Utterly depressed, which like every other feeling will vanish into the ether of amnesic nothingness.
“How do you manage?” We’ve lowered our expectations hugely. In the past, having friends, being a functional member of society etc was so important. Now….it`s a relief on the rare occasions that I wake up in the same place I remember going to sleep in.
“Does it feel like you are moving forward?” No….we are stagnant. Surviving, yes. Living, no.
“Does it matter if you are “moving forward?” So, so much. But we`re not. Feel like a huge disappointment for not being `better` / `recovered` / whatever.
Hey there brokenbutbeingrepaired —
Thanks for the comment — an excellent comment, I might add. 🙂
Of course you are welcome here, 🙂
Recovery and healing is a slow, but gradual process. Sometimes it feels like watching grass grow. It seems like nothing is happening, and then, all of a sudden, you start recognizing some positive changes that have taken place in your life and in your system.
When it feels like you are stuck in your work, go back to the basics. For me, that means to pay really close attention to how much you are talking with each other internally, and how kind and comforting you are being to each other.
If you need some ideas on what that means, look up the blogs written in the categories of Internal Communication, and Therapy homework Ideas. There are bunches of ideas on those blogs, and if you spend an hour or two each day working on any of the ideas listed in those blogs, you’ll most definitely get yourself moving forward in your healing.
It takes a lot of work, but you can do it.
Thanks for reading here so faithfully, and I hope you find something that fits for you.
Warmly,
Kathy
Hi Kathy and thank you.
For us, we’re having to go back to the beginning, again in order that we can re-evaluate our safety. That’s going to mean communicating with programmed ‘call back’ /reporter parts. Hmph.
Is there anything on your blog regarding that? (Had a brief look but concentration is lapsing now).
Thank you for the assurance that I am welcome, here.
elle
Hello Being Repaired,
Argh… hard topic. But yes, absolutely essential to work with the call back / reporter parts.
I have to assume that I’ve surely written about that through the years, somewhere…. possibly in the categories of Mind Control or Ritual Abuse. I had a quick peek, and didn’t find a specific article myself, but if I get a chance to look more, I’ll let you know.
Oh wait…. The “Safety First” article from the near the very beginning of this blog should speak about it.
I’ll think more… and maybe this is a topic I should write a specific article about….
Keep up the good work tho’. This area is critical!
Warmly,
Kathy
Thanks again, Kathy.
hello. can you add RSS news feed to your blog. To help everyone read it easier. Its a great blog.
Thanks Insomniac 🙂 I’m glad you like this blog.
And…. when I can figure out how to add RSS news feed, I certainly will, lol. I’m not the fastest at doing all the fancy stuff, 🙂
Much appreciated!
Kathy
We have noticed something. When i am in more physical pain, we seem to have more flashbacks and get more stuck in the past. I do t know if that’s consistent or not, but it has been like that lately.
We have had one good day in the past four weeks or so, and that day, i wasnt in any physical pain. Today i am in a lot of pain and can hardly walk, plus with a yucky headache, and today has been a rough day of being stuck in the past. Has anyone else noticed something like this?
My head is hurting too much to take these thoughts farther right now. But it was something i noticed.
Yeah, Pilgrim….but you are more aware than I am….sometimes when my body is feeling pain – there is a sense of a “thread” connecting it to Inside stuff – I just can’t see what it all is yet…sometimes I can see SI stirring in the distance – but I can’t figure out why and really try to stay away from that direction…..sometimes when a lot of stuff is “bubbling Inside”….our “Inside head” hurts a lot….that’s the best way we can describe it….it’s not our “Outside” head that is hurting like a “regular” headache – although we can feel the pain…but our “Inside head” – like overwhelming “pressure” that we don’t know what to do with…..like something is trying to process – but it is “overwhelmed” and “stuck”…..
“Inside head” headaches are harder to know what to do with than “Outside head” headaches…..(no wonder Outsiders look at me weird…ugh…)
MissyMing
04/16/20
Wer stuk
We dont lik it
It always feels like too many years are all backed up inside at once. Lke a traffic jam where all the cars are bumper to bumper. Its like that with years and memories. We are all jammedmup together. But like with a big traffic jam theres no way to get out of it. Because of that big 10 car pile up on the highway blocking everybody. We got a big giant traffic jam right now that been going on a long time. We cant make it go away and cant make it stop. So i guess we’re gonna stay jammed up here for a long time. Maybe forever.we dont know how to get out of it.
Mabey it dont matr anewa 🙁 proble not
I don’t have many words right now, but thank you so much. I’ve never had the words to try and explain to others how time works for me, why I always hesitate when I get asked the date, why I just really have no concept of time – whether it’s the hour, day, month, year, anything, it takes a lot to remind myself that it’s the 18th August 2013, that our body is nearly 24 years old and a great distance away from anyone bad.
I especially loved your line about how it feels like it’s so many years at once. I’ve been questioned before how I can have more than one flashback or things being brought up at once. How I can feel like I’m 4 and 7-8 and 10 and 13 and 14 and 16 and 19 and 23 all at the same time (regardless as to whether parts are present and around or not) and it just gave me so much validation to read that it can actually be several different times for me all at once. That it makes sense and it does happen and I let out such a sigh of relief when I read this so thank you, thank you, thank you. Lily et alia.
Hello Lilytalia,
Thanks so much for your very generous comment, and I am really pleased to hear that what I wrote made some sense to someone out there. 🙂
The different time frames come from the different insiders. Not everyone is “asleep” inside, so when they are actively awake and thinking / remembering / feeling various things from “their own” chunks of time, and you have ten different insiders feeling their own things all at the same time, that creates the ten different time sensations happening all at the same time because you are feeling the “now” and all of their different “nows” as well.
SO, it’s coming from within. At least that’s how I understand it.
Hope that helps, and best wishes for your healing journey —
Warmly,
Kathy
This happens alot too .. this mostly happens when feeling threatened .. violated , scared ..
Yes, exactly, Kerriae.
When insiders are feeling threatened, violated, scared — that’s when they are often triggered awake, or pulled more towards the front, or just acting out from within. And, they may still be very connected to their own trauma times, or caught in their own memories, which of course, are placing them at whatever age / time they connect to most.
So… yes, the more scared your overall system feels, the more different insiders are feeling active or upset, and the more time zones are “activated”. So yeah, when you think of it that way — there’s no wonder that time gets extra confusing when your system is feeling scared.
Good point. Thanks for your comment!
Warmly,
Kathy