It’s the Easter weekend — a complicated and conflictual weekend for most dissociative trauma survivors. So many layers of your inside levels will be awakened, aware, involved, wondering, waiting, going, sitting, thinking, watching, feeling, remembering, refusing, believing, fighting, crying, calling, hiding, etc.
It’s a time of being pulled in dozens of different directions all at once.
Lots of headaches, that’s what that means.
And lots of pain. Ouch, ouch, ouch.
So yes… I am thinking of you all, and wishing peace for you.
I know it’s difficult. Really difficult.
The Easter season is typically overloaded with the triggers, external pulls, family complications, and spiritual battles.
The inside battle within your system may be raging at full intensity.
Easter can be a time rich for accomplishing some important DID System work. Here are some ideas.
DID System Work:
Sit with those inside who are struggling.
As best you can, remember to sit with each other in your system, and learn what you can about the others that you see nearby. What struggles are they having? What thoughts are in their mind? What feelings do they hold? What feelings do they avoid?
Is there anything you can do to help them? What can you do to give them comfort? What can you do to make the struggle less sharp? How can you keep your system safe, both on the inside and outside?
Learn new info from others inside.
Intense weekends such as this are usually heavily overloaded with information, from your past and maybe in your present. These are things you need to know. It’s from your life, and you can know what you and your insiders have been through.
You are allowed now.
It’s okay to know.
It’s good to know, even when it’s difficult to know.
Be safe, even with yourself.
For many of you, just making it through alive and well is the goal.
Self-injury may seem like the “best option”, but it really doesn’t help in the long-run. Look for other options to handle this time of stress. Read through the bunches of articles here that give other options to consider.
The intensity of what you are feeling will gradually subside… You don’t have to cut or purge it away.
It’s okay to feel what you feel. Your feelings belong to you — you are allowed now to have them.
Comfort others in your system.
For others of you, you may feel solid enough to use this time to make headway in reaching others in your system who are struggling more than you. It can be painful to hear and connect with the trauma memories held by many in your system, but it really is okay to remember what has happened in your life, and you don’t have to be punished for that anymore.
Find ways to heal your wounds and comfort your heartaches.
Be kind to each other. Kind, gentle, soothing. Come together. Be a team.
Enjoy your weekend.
Some of you will be far enough in your healing journey that you can find the good things to enjoy about the holiday weekend.
Maybe you can enjoy a warm walk outside in the sunshine, or a handful of the kids’ favorite candy. Something near you may smell really nice – where is that?
Breathe deeply, bringing in things that are good.
Yes, there will be beauty in this weekend — see if you can find it.
Speaking of finding things….
Can you see the two caterpillars in the picture?
In my personal way of thinking, good beats out evil, so …. do your best to hold on tight till the darkness passes, and as soon as you can, find ways to reach those places of goodness, peace, comfort, joy, and love.
It’s okay to let go of that darkness. You don’t have to stay there any more. You can move over to a life of warmth now. You are allowed to do that.
You can do it, I know you can.
I am thinking of you all, and I wish you the best in your healing journey.
Happy Easter everyone.
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