Maizy is a quiet lit
tle cow.
She talks when she wants to, but that’s not very often.
Maizy doesn’t like noise, and she doesn’t like crowds, and she doesn’t like bunches of people everywhere near and around.
Maizy isn’t that sure about people – she only likes one or two people, here and there. And even then, she’s not completely sure.
People are not her favorite.
Mostly, Maizy likes her own space.
She likes to feel safe, and she likes to have plenty of distance away from the threat of anyone coming near. For Maizy, space equals safety. She knows she will be ok if no one is nearby.
Maizy likes anything that reminds her of unruffled freedom. She likes to watch birds fly in the air. She likes to watch horses run across fields. She likes to see puppies play and ducks swim in ponds and butterflies fluttering around.
Maizy also likes to watch kites flying in the sky. Kites up in the sky are very peaceful. They blow back and forth, floating and looking, and enjoying their own space up and away from everybody else. Kites get to see all kinds of things, and they get to lift up and away from the noise of the world. And kites come in all colors, and all shapes, and sizes, and there is no such thing as a bad kite or a wrong kite. Kites are just fun. Maizy loves kites!
But today, Maizy has a dilemma. Oh dear, oh dear.
Maizy heard about a kite day. On this kite day, all kinds of kites were going to go to the park and fly high in the air. There were going to be box kites, and round kites, and home-made kites, and tiger kites, and fish kites, and heart kites, and circle kites, and bear kites, and mermaid kites, and turtle kites, and rainbow kites. There were so many different kites coming to kite day that Maizy could hardly decide which ones to watch! Maizy was so excited!
A Fly-in-the-Sky-like-a-Kite Day all day would be perfect!
So what was the problem?
The problem, for Maizy, is that the kites came with oodles and gobs of people. People! Yuck! Maizy is not a fan of people! Maizy wanted to see the kites, but she didn’t want to see the people! If only the kites could fly by themselves over to the kite park…
Oh dear, oh dear. What was Maizy going to do?
Instead of feeling happy, Maizy was feeling very cranky. She was upset. She was angry. She did not want those noisy scary people to mess up her wonderful Fly-in-the-Sky-like-a-Kite Day!
She stomped her foot.
“Go away, people!”
She stomped all four of her feet.
“Go away, go away, go away, go away! Don’t mess up my wonderful Fly-in-the-Sky-like-a-Kite Day!”
But the people did not go away.
In fact, more and more people came. More and more of them!
Maizy had to stop and think. She couldn’t make all the people go away. As much she may have wanted to, she just wouldn’t be able to do it. There were just too many of them, of all shapes and sizes. There were as many people as there were kites.
Maybe more! Those noisy people were just everywhere!
Would they bother her?
Would they hurt her?
Would they leave her alone?
Would they be kind to her?
Maizy had to make a decision.
She really wanted to go see those beautiful kites, but she would have to be super duper brave to be near all those people. Hmmmm….
What was a Maizy to do…
Ok. Well. Hmmmm….
She thought and she thought and she thought.
A Fly-in-the-Sky-like-a-Kite Day all day really would be a really fun thing to do.
She really didn’t want to miss it. She had already missed out on too many fun things because she was afraid to be around people.
Hmmmmmm…..
Maizy finally decided she could be brave.
Maizy knew that while some people had been very mean to her in the past, she knew that some people could be nice.
She knew that she couldn’t always believe the worst about everyone.
Maizy knew that a whole bunch of people would probably walk right past her, and not really interact with her at all.
Maizy liked that.
She liked to be ignored by strangers. She was plenty happy for people to stay involved in their own lives and to leave her alone. Maybe just maybe she could quietly watch the kites from her own little spot, and not mingle with anyone else. She wouldn’t have to look at anyone. She wouldn’t have to talk to anyone. She could just look at the kites.
Maizy knew she didn’t have to miss out on fun stuff just because she didn’t like to be around people.
If she stayed mostly quiet to herself, and if she was polite to anyone she decided to speak to, Maizy figured that there was a very good chance that she could navigate her kite party without any big problems happening.
Maybe, just maybe, she could go see the kites and not be bothered or hurt by anyone at all.
And maybe just maybe, Maizy could have fun at her wonderful Fly-in-the-Sky-like-a-Kite Day!
Copyright © 2008-2017 Kathy Broady MSW and Discussing Dissociation
What a nice read after a. Long hard week . Baby enjoyed the great story. Jessie say you know she isn’t fearful of people . Do you remember the guy in the elevator but she was talking to when we had our one on one.
Wi Pilgrim not be tokeen wit me ? Me be bad yukky gerl bad bad nobudee can tok wit Snippy tat wi . Puke puke bad gerl yukky yukky gerl sorree sorree me I do be to bad bad bad gerl
Hi Snippy,
My name is ME+WE. My one little one – her name is Squirrel – wanted me to write because she wanted you to know that we are all here to see you and talk to you if you want to. There are lots of really nice folks here that you can talk to. And I can tell you that Kathy is super kind, super safe and super helpful.
Now, Squirrel is really, really, really sad (me too) that you feel that you are a bad and yucky girl. We don’t think so. Squirrel thought this too (no more) but she has some insider friends that still feel this way. That makes her feel really sad. You do not have to feel bad and yucky here ‘cause we are here and we know. We hope that maybe we can help you see that you are wanted here and we valued you.
ME+WE
03/09/2018
Pilgrim do the lady wit the red shrt be nise prsen
Hi Snippy,
Welcome to Discussing Dissociation — it’s nice to meet you.
Today I am wearing a blue shirt, but I am the lady in the picture with the red shirt. I’m usually pretty nice, but I’ll let Pilgrim answer that for you. :). Have you seen any of my videos? You can see lots more about me if you also watch me talk in those videos. I have lots of shirts in lots of different colors. You’ll see that in those videos too. 🙂
I’m sure Pilgrim just hasn’t seen that you’ve written yet, and I’m sure she will write to you when she does. She’s pretty good at writing to people so please, just be a little more patient and wait for her to get here.
Just keep writing, Snippy. Maybe also say hello on a different page or a different thread, too — that way more people will see that you wrote something. Lots of comments have come thru’ lately, and maybe people just didn’t see that you were here yet.
This is a really nice group of people who read here, and I’m very sure that they will talk with you.
I hope you feel better soon.
Warmly,
Kathy
Hi . Me I onle seed this tokeen wit pilgrim wat pages wat vidos wat yu saeen ? Mmmmmmmscard haw yu no me mi name can yu see me to ? Pilgrim is nise lady at min jurne lon time go but we not node that so mene peepl in here and Lady still not nos . Lady alwaes bes mad wen me I tri tok to her . But the dcter sae thar be lots of peepl and me I node it but not Lady do !
yes her be the nicest person in the world!
you shuld watch kathys videos
her videos show how nice she be
Hi pilgrim do yu rember me I node yu at the uthr plase wit eteen stuff an mine jurne but me not cud fin yu and beedto scard
yes we member you
that place broke down so caden had to close it becuse no one could get it to work again
so we just been here
Pilgrim me snippy frum lon time go me I seed yu name be here
it be spring here
we want to go fly kites
the air smell good
the flowers be comeing out
we dont want to go to schol we want to play out side all day
its a good story and I feel like Maisy too!! You are smart Kathy to know how people like us feel.
I like Maisy and her adventure. Do you have more story’s about Maisy?
Thank you! You are so good to us!:)
Ifs I putted sumfin here who else is gona seed it????
Hey Meggy,
Thanks for writing. I see the writings you make first — just private to me, and then I can put them on the page so everyone who reads the story can see what you say.
It’s great to add your words, but please make sure your big people are okay with what you type. 🙂
Thank you, thank you for coming to this writing place. I hope you get to write more! 🙂
Warmly,
Kathy
Kathy,
Thank you for the story about Maisy and the other stories you posted. My parts liked them.
We don’t like people neither. We like this story. Thank u.
Hi Evan from KK people –
yes, it’s a good story, and a true story too! Glad you liked it. Hi hi hi to you and all your inside KK people… 🙂
Warmly,
Kathy
How do I get brave enough to go around people like Maisy did? I feel too scared.
Hi tenhill,
Welcome to the Discussing Dissociation blog.
Thank you for reading about Maizy. 🙂
And to answer your question briefly…. start with very small steps. A few minutes here and there. Keep a further distance, and gradually get closer to others, but be willing to do things out there just on your own first. Don’t expect too much too soon, and do a lot of people watching to see what others are doing. Let yourself be brave enough to gradually do what you actually want to do when you are out there in public. Do lots and lots of little steps, giving yourself lots of time to feel safer, stronger, braver. It all adds up in the end, no matter how long it takes. Give yourself permission, and go for it, bit by bit.
Happy New Year to you — I wish you the best.
Warmly,
Kathy
Hellows
We bin liking da new story dat you post about Jasmine da doggy. Sum of us like doggies. We bin finking we wud like da mommy doggy Jasmine. She looks nice for cuddles..
Some of us peoples here like foxes too and der was foxes pictures!!! 🙂 🙂
it so nice dat you wrotes dat parts/people thing too
bye byes
Flower (one of Insomniac’s crew)
Post! Post! Post! Post! Post!
we bin liking dis Story!!
Can u pleases do more stories for littles, we liking dem stories wiv da pictures da best
We in dis system not so liking bin called Parts coz we got sum who is like parts but many who is likes Peoples!
Hi little Insomniac –
Thanks for writing to me – I am happy to hear from you.
You know what? I wrote a whole new post after I read what you said, so thank you for the inspiration!
Yes, I have a new story I’m going to post soon – I’m working on it already, so hopefully, you’ll like it too.
Thanks for reading, and for looking at all the pretty pictures!
Warmly,
Kathy
dis is gud fanks ples link ar blog ok
http://emilyandothers.wordpress.com/
A lovely story and pictures, thanks Kathy
dis gud storey mis kafky 🙂
i bet mazy wuld like to go up in the parashute with me when we go in the fall
i bet she wuld laff and laff and laff wile we fly down to the earth.
i like them kite fethers there so cool.
from TUCK
OH I can so relate to Maizy too. I remember once wanting to go to this place where my favorite kind of music was going on. It was something this group did every month and I’d wanted to go for two years. Finally, I decided to. I got prepared. Dressed up. Hair and make-up…the works. I got in the car and drove over. I got to the place, burst into tears (tears almost never happen with us) and drove straight through the parking lot all the way home.
Another time – I was asked to attend a wedding. It was going to be an event – a beautiful one. Again I got dressed to the nines, hair and make up all done. Got directions, printed the map – navigated through city traffic for an hour trying to get there. Drove straight through the parking lot crying, dizzy, nauseous, chest pain…the whole bit.
YESTERDAY – a dear dear friend’s baby shower. I was apprehensive, everyone was, but this was for our friend and everyone loves this friend. She’s so special and has a beautiful baby boy coming in July. I was bringing a big gift from several people that was going to be the center piece. TERRIFIED, I packed it in my car and drove over. I did it. I got out of the car, went and knocked on a stranger’s door and did the whole baby shower thing. It was FUN.
A TOTALLY FUN DAY!!!!!!!
*hi-fives to Maizy moo (my nickname for Maizy the Cow – hope she doesn’t mind)* WE DID IT!!!!!
No body hurt us, no body did bad things, no body scared us or anything. Every one was nice and we even had cake!!!
It was still kind of weird because I sort of felt like I was watching the whole thing and participating but not really??? Maybe someone was helping that I don’t know about, but I was sure glad they were there.
YAY FOR BEAUTIFUL KITES!!!!!
We wish we did be there to see the kites
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We be like maizy we dont like pepol ether.
But we like kites. We wish we culd fly away on a kite. Rel far.
We like your kite story. we’ve been crying for days and days and this made us both cry and smile cuz things are so whackadoodle right now. we really liked the pictures of Maizy Cow and the kites. We spent part of the day with our wolf and Sarge the german shepard – all the same size as Maizy. We like the feather kites the bestest! and Maizy with the diamond rainbow kite. Earlier today we went to the park with a friend and didn’t like the people either but they didn’t bother us with our friend there. One person even said good morning to us – she was very happy, it was nice. we didn’t see any kites, but lots of birds and we came home with duck and canadian goose feathers. tonight we made something like a kite – it is 2 mandalasthat we colored, gluded back to back with stuffing inside and on the strings above and below there are beads (and goose feathers). maybe it is an indoor kite.
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