Life is full of changes.
At least that’s how I have found it to be.
Has your life stayed the same through the years?
Mine hasn’t. Not at all.
And 2011, in particular, was a year full of changes. Lots of changes. Lots of big, big, big, super big, like rocking my whole world, big changes. I didn’t know what to expect after completely changing my life in 2011, but I looked forward to good things.
Some of it was fantastic — and some thing….. not so much.
I know that many of you have always wondered where I’ve been, what I’ve been doing, why I stopped writing in 2011, etc.
IF I ever decide to disclose those details, I will, but until then, I would very much appreciate it if you all could respect my need for privacy with certain things about my life. I understand that many of you have felt a loss, and for that I apologize.
[UPDATE: PLEASE CLICK THE LINK TO HEAR MY STORY .]
So that was then…… and this is NOW.
The year of 2016 was another big time of change for me.
And 2017 is going to be a fantastic year of change for the Discussing Dissociation blog.
LOTS of new things will be added, slowly but surely. These will definitely be good changes. I am not quick at getting them all done, but I am doing them, I promise!
And to my delight and surprise, through the years, there have continued to be many site viewers, and thank you for that. Seriously, thank you for that.
That’s exciting, and it warms my heart to see that. I do appreciate knowing that this blog has continued to be helpful and useful to people even in my absence. That was a big part of the point of writing these blog articles in the first place – so solid information about dissociative disorders could be available for free, 24/7, no matter what else was going on in life.
Many of you have contacted me throughout the years, asking about more posts. And thank you for that as well. I have been considering your requests, and thinking of ways I can expand this blog into something even bigger.
I am in the process of building new features. As of today, even my short list is busy!
Discussing Dissociation is going to have :
Ongoing Email Newsletters
Kids Time with Kathy Email Course
eBooks written specifically about DID and DID healing
and….. I’m considering a new Membership Site
LOTS of new stuff to look forward to this year!
I like the blogging community – most of the blogging world has been very kind to me. I really appreciate that. It’s a nice contrast from all the dark coldness that thrives out there in the world.
Sometimes life changes in ways that we can’t completely control.
Sometimes life changes require some very difficult decisions.
Sometime life changes are very painful.
Sometimes they are very exciting.
Life changes can be a drastic combination of loss and adventure.
“Tuck” was the first person to teach me about adventure walks. (Thank you, Tuck.) Life is very much an adventure walk, especially in the changes!
I hope you each are finding adventures in your walks.
And speaking of that… may I ask….
- What about you?
- How are you?
- What has been happening in your life this past year?
- How has your life changed?
- Is there anything you would like to share about what has been happening for you?
Post your Comments so we can know about YOUR life changes too!
It’s good for us to hear from each other. Building a community … that’s a good thing.
My thoughts are with you all –
Copyright © 2008-2017 Kathy Broady MSW and Discussing Dissociation
Oh wow. We wrote to you so long ago about our mother passing away – big Change – and we see us still on here struggling 18 months later cause Mother’s Day is coming & we are panicking about what to do. A new tradition? But what. Can’t figure out how in the gracious to handle it. It’s not just another day … Or is it? Or could it be? Wow just as confusing as when she was living. We could never understand her & we never will & that is very hard change right now. Ok. Me thinks too much. Geez Louise! Gimme a break people in my head.
life changes can be difficult… I’m sorry if you have had some difficult life changes Kathy I hope the forum and the blog weren’t pulling on you and adding to difficult times. Me thinks – it sounds tough having your mum pass away i am sending you my kind thoughts. I have to move house again its always hard I can’t seem to find a place to stay for long. life changes can make things shift around and things dont feel as safe and secure. But the fact of life is that it changes…thats how we know we are alive – for some on the inside life doesn’t change its just the same thing over and over the only way to get out of that is to look out an d see that life has changed and life changes. Also hello to Pilgrim (: sending you some very special kind thoughts too.
Kathy Broady says
hi to all of the irinikids 🙂
it’s good to hear from you. 🙂
I am pleasantly surprised to see a post from you, and I hope all is well. I enjoy this blog very much. Last year, your blog inspired me to start my own DID blog from a personal perspective.
Be well. 🙂
Kathy Broady says
Thank you for such a nice comment – I am really pleased to hear that. Thank you! 🙂
Blogging takes lots of time, and lots of work, (unless you are a quick writer, which I am most certainly NOT). I hope you find that your writing helps with your healing as well, plus, it’s always nice to know that what you write can have a positive impact on someone else.
Keep up the good work, and thanks for reading.
TabFan1 (@TabFan1) says
I’m glad you’re back.
Sorry 2011 was hard.
Me Thinks says
You gave us an idea. Me Thinks that since we are incredibly mixed up because the mother died … Me Thinks we are gonna take turns letting each one inside write about what we think & feel. Then we’ll have a group meeting & keep trying to decide how we are feeling & what to do about it. Me Thinks it would have to be better than our headache all the time. And our confused thoughts & stuff that is so mixed up right now. There is so much confusion inside cause she died. We are finding all our baby & growing up stuff & other things too. It’s making us a lil crazy inside. Me Thinks we might pack up what’s most important & fly back to our home – but it is too soon now so we are mad. Me Thinks it’s too many decisions for me. Maybe we freak out & go home. Me Thinks we just so unsure. We are hurting inside but not on the outside. Somebody wants a Tattoo. Me Thinks we have so much to think about. Me Thinks too much. It must be time to play or something. What does Ya’ll out there thinks?
Redng this makes me sick to my stomake. And want to cry. Cuz it reminde me that last yere at this time things did be so mutch beter. Jadie and claire did play and laff. We all playd. We all talkd. Things was so mutch happyer.
Now it all be a reck & be so hard. And jadie and claire just cry and hit therselfs. Nobody play no more. Its like a tornado go thru inside 🙁
We dont no how to fix it. Allmost all of 2011 did be very bad sints march till now.Speshally thanksgiveing. And wehn are dog die and pepol we love die Wehn do things ever going to get beter? Tumarow is the aniversory of wheb sharon left us. Efrebody leves us evn wehn they promiss they wont 🙁 we just kep being more allone.nobody no what hapining with us and that scare us so bad 🙁 2012 isnt being a good yere so far. Bad things kep hapining. It seem like it never gona end. Ever.
Kathy Broady says
It is certainly no fun at all when our lives go through such painful rough patches. I wish I had a simple answer for how to get through the hard times without feeling so beat up and devastated, but it’s just not easy. I know that, for me, a whole lot of gentle self soothing (not self injury, but doing genuinely kind things for myself, simple little things, but kind things) can help to get thru’ hard times. I figure that if life is already being rough on me, then I don’t have to be rough on me — I can be kind to myself and do things that help soothe my soul, and not bring further pain. And once I start finding some of the little things that touch my soul in a good way, then bit by bit, I feel better.
But it’s not fast. Or easy. But it works. And it helps.
I’m sorry your heart is hurting so much.
Me thinks says
PaRumPaPaPUM! I’m so glad you came back! Your year was sad. I be sad for you too. Sad is sad isn’t it. Get your good music goin on. That’s what helps me ya know. We missed our Christmas present – it was a ticket to see Manheim Steamroller play live at our town but we are out of town. You woulda liked it too. Cause this is Lil Drummer Boy. Umm Broady Bear – will you Blog about when people die? It messes everything up inside. For days we had everybody out when the mother passed away. We called our tx & she said to get our act together – well that has not been so easy as it sounded. Our headaches came back right now. We be doin all our coping skills all the time lately. We bet you have been too since your year sounds sad very sad. Well maybe if we listen to enough good music – we will all have a happy new year. Broady Bear – at my house – I have a full trap set. It is so fun. I took Drum lessons in 2011. So it was so fun. Ok – so glad you r back. Please stay for awhile – it’s so hard when people die. Ok back to my music. PaRumPaPaPum. from Lil Drummer Boy. <3
Kathy Broady says
Hi Lil Drummer Boy –
Thanks for your comment. I had a full drumset too, until my son decided he would take drum lessons and completely took them over, lol. He’s a much better drummer than I am, but one of these days, I hope to get back to doing more drumming. That and the guitar. I have my hopes set on learning a lot about the guitar this year. I’m already making plans and very seriously looking forward to that!
And you are right — music is sooooo helpful, especially when someone is feeling sad, or experiencing heartbreak, or pain. That ol’ phrase that music soothes the soul is enormously true for me.
I am sorry that your heart is hurting so much. The loss of a momma can be so very painful…
Thanks for reading.
Sarah K Reece says
Hello Kathy, lovely to see a new post from you 🙂 2011 was a great year for me – not being able to access the online group due to spam issues notwithstanding! I’ve started my own blog (sarahkreece.blogspot.com) and a face to face group at a local mental health NGO which is going fantastically, so some local resources for us here in Oz at last. 🙂 Thanks for your very thought provoking blog!
Kathy Broady says
Hi Sarah –
Thanks for posting — it’s good to hear from you too. 🙂
I’m glad to hear that you are working on developing more resources, both online and in-person. That’s a lot of work, but it’s important.
I’ll go have a peek at your blog soon —
Keep up the good work!
it make us cry to red this here 🙁 we miss you so mutch are hart hurt 🙁 so bad
2011 be a bad yere
to meny things go away
to meny die
we luse all kinds of things
all kinds of things jist disoperd 🙁
sory we cry 🙁
Not much to say at the moment Kathy but it is so good to hear from you. I wish you all the best in this new year.
Kathy Broady says
It is good to hear from you. 🙂 And I’m really happy to hear that you have found a good therapist. That’s such good news, especially to have a therapist who will talk to your insiders, and recognizes everyone from insiders as important individuals, and all that good stuff. That sounds really good, and important for all kinds of reasons. You did a good job being persistent in your search… I really hope the best for you. Well done!
Oh my goodness, you’ve had a difficult year. I’m sorry about your sister — loss is really so very difficult to deal with. In my experiences, severe life stresses can stretch and exacerbate dissociative tendencies… but as you work through your feelings and address life’s challenges, your system can come back closer together again. Remember how, for most years of your life, you have internally separated to deal with the stress of life, (the same as all dissociative people do)? And now, after all your hard work in your healing, what you can see is that you and your system can come back closer together, and yes, it can happen again, and most likely will, as you work thru’ these difficult times. But oh my goodness, you’ve had some very painful struggles this year. I do hope 2012 is a much kinder year for you…
And hi to you — peoplepuzzlepieces!
It’s very good to hear from you and I look forward to catching up more with you soon. I’ll be sending some warm gentle thoughts your way….
Hi Pilgrim —
It’s ok to cry… crying is allowed, and it’s a natural response to feeling sad or upset. There’s nothing at all wrong with crying, (despite any other perspective you might have been taught before…!). Loss is really painful. I’m sorry it hurts to much. I’m hoping that 2012 will be a better year for you too…
Thank you all for writing — it is very good to hear from you.
Welcome back. Kathy I have missed you.
2011 has been a bad year but even bad years can have some good things. Firstly I nearly died in 2011. I had a haemorrage and lost 2 litres of blood ahd had to have an emergency hysterectomy. I learned something important about myself then. I realised I did want to live, I did have needs and when the nurses looked after me I realised I do need physical contact although it scares me.
In October my sister died of cancer, I thought my heart would break and for a while I was completely discocciated and all the work i had been doing in therapy to stay innterated seemed to fly out of the window. I am still struggling with that loss – how could she die?!
While all this has been going on I have continued with my training and I am half way through my course. I now have a diploma in counselling and psychotherapy. I am working towards my Advanced Diploma.
So that’s me or should I say us since my others have been very much present for much of the year.
Hi Kathy Broady!! Hi! Hi! I’m very glad you posted… Guess what??? We got a new t and she’s great great great the greatest so far!!! She talks to all of us and even says our inside names and she wears cool headbands that we wish we got some of. We miss SF… Is it gone forever? We hope we can hear again from you soon.