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A Real Unicorn?!! Really?

By Kathy Broady MSW 24 Comments

This article is written for the child parts of the DID survivors that read this blog.

Hey Kids, did you see the news yesterday? 

Hmmmm…. probably not, because most kids don’t watch the news.  And because of that, I wanted to make sure to let you know about something I saw in the news that might interest you.

 

Look!  Look!   They found something that looks like a real unicorn!!

 

The Unicorn Found in Italy

 

If you look here, you will find the video that talks more about it, and shows more pictures of it walking around in its natural forest home.  This little unicorn guy was found in Italy, and I think he is being protected and tended to very carefully.  That’s good, because there aren’t very many unicorns in the world!  🙂

 

What do you think it is?

Is it a real unicorn?

Is it a deericorn?

Maybe it’s a unideer. 🙂

 

Whatever it is, it is very cool!!!

Do you ever think about unicorns?
Do you have coloring books with unicorns in them?
What would you do if you saw a real unicorn?

And if you don’t like unicorns, what is your favorite animal?

Now I realize this little deer only looks like a unicorn, but so many kid parts talk about like unicorns that I just had to share it for everyone to see.

And for the older parts of the dissociative systems, it really is okay to let your child parts experience some of the positive wonders of the world. 

It is okay to let your child parts play, and to let them enjoy experiences.  Simple pleasures like chocolate shakes, or yo-yo’s, or puzzle games, or teddy bears, or soccer balls can go a long ways in connecting with your child parts. 

If you have Dissociative Identity Disorder (DID / MPD), your childhood was most likely interrupted by too much pain, grief, loss, trauma, betrayal, neglect, and hurt. 

As a child, your play times would have been few and far between, and you would have often felt too sad or hurt to play. 

Dissociative skills, dissociative walls, and dissociative amnesia could have separated some of the effects of the trauma from your awareness, but in all the years I have been working with multiples, I have never yet had any dissociative survivor tell me that she or he had lots ‘n lots ‘n lots of fun and play times as a child.

This is a very sad statement because having carefree playtime is a normal childhood need.  It is actually important to proper growth and development.  To miss out on playtime as a child means to have unmet needs.

To help meet some of those unmet needs, it is ok, and even therapeutically important to let your child parts have fun.  Let them play.  Let them enjoy some carefree activities.  Let them learn how to have good times.

Even if you are an adult, it is not too late to let your kids have fun.  Play is a normal part of growing up, and if this was stolen from you, letting your child parts play in the current day will help with your overall healing and sense of well being.

Giving your child parts the chance to play in the here and now is a corrective emotional experience for them.  Corrective emotional experiences are experiences in the current day that help to correct the wrongs and fill the voids that were left after a childhood full of trauma and neglect.  Corrective emotional experiences allow for healing, growth, and positive movement.

So go find a unicorn!
Go to a baseball game!
Watch a few cartoons!
Draw in your coloring books!

🙂 🙂 🙂 🙂 🙂

Play, have fun, and enjoy life for awhile!
Your whole system will feel better for it.

 

Warmly,

Kathy

 

 

 

Copyright © 2008-2017 Kathy Broady MSW and Discussing Dissociation

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Comments

  1. identity4 says

    July 12, 2010 at 12:05 pm

    Thanx Ms. Kathy!

    Soooooo Coooool!

    🙂 🙂 🙂 🙂

    Reply
    • Kathy Broady says

      July 12, 2010 at 12:19 pm

      hi identity,
      You’re very welcome. 🙂 And it is cool, isn’t it?!!!

      Kiya – wow – you know a lot about these. I’ve never heard of a Ki Rin, but I might go do a few google searches on them to catch up. It sounds like you’ve had lots of fun thoughts about unicorns. 🙂 Thanks for the comment. 🙂

      Kathy

      Reply
  2. kiyacat says

    July 12, 2010 at 12:08 pm

    What do you think it is? Kiya says it is a Ki Rin. We have a statue of one on her desk.

    Is it a real unicorn? yeah kiya says it is a type – from asia – that has been known for centruies. the statue we have is really purdy. it is a bit different than the one in the pic; is some sort of deer, but with huge eyes, a slight mane that goes all the way down the back to the tail which is long and curly. it is mostly covered in hair, but the sides have dragon scales! then she has cloven hoves like a goat or deer. she has a golden horn that slopes back at first and then slightly curves forwared. The artist is Pena with a ~ over the n (we can’t do that on this puter). she is a ruddy brown and the dragon scales are opalescent white.

    Whatever it is, it is very cool!!! we been wanting to say It’s a Ki Rin!!! for ever since we saw it on the net.

    Do you ever think about unicorns? ALL THE TIME!

    Do you have coloring books with unicorns in them? yeah of course! and a real cool one too where uni’s are with different animals. my fave is the one where a uni is swimming with a narwhal!!! those are my fave whales.

    What would you do if you saw a real unicorn? oh i would go right up to her – cautisously – they allow girls and women to come to them mostly – and i would walk wth her and want to know what she knows, and maybe… if she let me… if she offered…. ride! and wink out with her to wherever she goes!
    they’re powerful magic. to escape we read all the time, and day dreamed and when we played outside, we pretended to be unicorns and go running thru the forest (this was later when i had a friend cuz we lived in an apartmetnt and not in the middle of nowhere). earlier i had my little ponies and i played with the pegasi and uni’s.

    i always wanted the power to wink out and materialize somewhere else.

    Reply
  3. kiyacat says

    July 12, 2010 at 1:18 pm

    http://images.elfwood.com/art/j/i/jill/ki_rin.jpg

    http://www.kyrinslair.com/Ki-rin.jpg

    Wiki says: Kyrin, is a mythical hooved Chinese chimerical creature known throughout various East Asian cultures, and is said to appear in conjunction with the arrival of a sage. It is a good omen that brings rui (Chinese: 瑞; pinyin: ruì; roughly translated as “serenity” or “prosperity”).

    The Kirin is a creature from Chinese mythology. It is described in books on folklore as having the body of a dear, the tail of an ox, and the hooves of a horse, with a single horn on it’s head, and a coat of five colors.

    According to legend, this amazing animal refuses to step on living plants and will not eat living things. Considered a harbinger of auspicious events, a Kirin is said to have appeared at the bedside of the mother of Confucius as she was about to give birth to her son – a symbol of well-being and good fortune

    Reply
  4. pilgrimchild says

    July 12, 2010 at 3:04 pm

    wow i love unicorns
    white ones with pink and perpol

    Reply
  5. pilgrimchild says

    July 12, 2010 at 9:21 pm

    we love to play
    i like baseball
    claire likes to play dolls
    so do mae
    all them girls do
    we like games
    and play out side
    i like to play catch
    i like to play baskit ball
    its good to play
    lots and lots of play is fun
    from tuck
    p.s. thats a funy loking unicorn 🙂

    Reply
  6. brinarebel says

    July 12, 2010 at 10:52 pm

    our kids are petrified to play, they dont have a clue how, because we never were allowed, fear of getting it wrong stops them and us.

    we have lego, but it never gets played with, but its there when one day we are healed enough to open the lid and get some out.

    Reply
  7. piecesofthepuzzle09 says

    July 12, 2010 at 11:21 pm

    wow that iz reali kewl!! we not shur what that be but it preti neyt!

    we do lik unicorns an we has colering book that bigs get us wif unicorns in it! an gues wat? we gots a book a frend gots us abot unicorns too!!

    Reply
  8. dianacuz says

    July 13, 2010 at 6:10 am

    i liked the unicorn cause i thut they was white but not this one i like to play mostly increeks with rocks and sometimes i like to read books with the pitures and words but mostly the bigger ones read that for me but not out loud

    we are sick and not gonna play out of the bed for long time but we will have secret color books and crayons and we will try to find one with a unicorn in it and we like sponge bob

    thank yu miss kathy

    mickey

    Reply
  9. shenison says

    July 13, 2010 at 11:23 am

    Thank you 🙂
    This made me smile.

    Reply
  10. nubivagant says

    July 13, 2010 at 7:09 pm

    acordin to that book the last unicorn unicorns dus be more like deers than horses an wateevr them scientsist sey of course it be reel

    -neens

    Reply
  11. thelittlestsurvivor says

    July 14, 2010 at 6:56 pm

    we lurvs it…it’s a unideer we decided..it looks like the deer on. it looks like the deer in that movie Open Season. he has one horn.

    Reply
  12. Sam Ruck says

    July 14, 2010 at 8:06 pm

    having my wife’s insiders around means I get to “play” again. We do all kinds of fun things around the area and on vacation. I have had the pleasure of introducing them to the magic of childhood, and as I have done so, they have really blossomed. As I said in one of my posts, “play therapy” in my house means letting the insiders play lots each day. It’s definitely healing.

    Reply
  13. Carol Welch says

    July 16, 2010 at 9:06 am

    Very cool! Love the way that you tied the unideer in with the unicorn, with play, with multiples. Makes me smile. 🙂

    I wrote something a few years back about play; it is a deep subject…
    http://www.poetrypages.com/phpBB3/viewtopic.php?f=8&t=50847

    And I ‘believe’ in unicorns. 😉

    “The Ride”

    My loins straddle the dapple gray
    Her sinews ‘neath my thighs
    She shakes her head, impetuous fervor
    Awaiting my signal to embark the ride

    Forward I lean, her neck to embrace
    She turns her face, crystal blue eye
    Filled with excitement, it speaks to me
    Nostrils flare, arousal is high

    I read her, she reads me
    I sit upright, we both breathe deep
    Silver mane now in my palms
    Anticipation’s climax, heart’s pulsing beat

    Bodies’ rhythms dance as equals
    She detects the press from my knees
    Tossing her head, she springs forward
    Nothing but wind beneath her feet

    Passionate fury, we move as one
    Rainbow’s edge, far side of the storm
    Freedom once tasted, never forgotten
    Upon my dapple gray unicorn

    august 12, 2oo7
    judithpiper
    http://parchmentanthology.blogspot.com/2010/01/ride.html

    Reply
  14. csunbean says

    July 17, 2010 at 11:30 pm

    brinarebel,brinarebel said,

    July 12, 2010 at 10:52 pm

    our kids are petrified to play, they dont have a clue how, because we never were allowed, fear of getting it wrong stops them and us.
    ________________________________________________________
    I have the same problem. Play is so scary and so foreign! Maybe cause you have to let your guard down to play, or feel little, and you might be deceived or laughed or .. or worse….and to come “out” to play is really, really, really, scary. So embarrassed at my inability to play or joke around with people even now as an adult. I am a dud.
    I did have a fleeting second of co-consciousness with a little before and it blew my mind. She was all free and full of wonder and awe about everything and playing with a little watering can. Her feelings of joy were so so foreign to me. I don’t have those kinds of feelings. I started asking her questions and boom she and her good feelings were gone! Oh well, at least somebody somewhere inside can have fun.

    Reply
  15. kiyacat says

    July 18, 2010 at 1:49 am

    awwww i tooedk piturs ov our unicorns to shar wif u all cuz theyr preety an safe. but nowd i see that we no can put piturs up on heer. deres a purpur one wif gold hares and she is the kween. den there is a lil green blu one wif eyes dat open and klose an wite hares. her name is riben. an we have a key chane wif a soft wite one. and kiya has her statuews of a baby one wif gold horn and the ki rin she said ov avobe.

    i noes play wif dem ether cuz i noes feel safe wif not seein the rest of da place but i think ov dem and they live in da kasle in the klouds. kiya reeds her books and i preetnd i fly wif da pegasis and wink wif da unicorns. 😀

    Reply
  16. roguesophia says

    July 19, 2010 at 12:29 pm

    That is so beautiful. Bean (my little who can’t really read or write) wants to say thank you she’s smiling and my body is just about to weep. I haven’t seen her this happy in… oh 7 or 8 years?

    Thank you so much!

    ~Muse and holo LeMorgon on behalf of Bean

    Reply
    • Kathy Broady says

      July 19, 2010 at 12:47 pm

      Wow, roguesophia, thank you for your comment. I’m glad this blog has had such a positive impact on Bean! 😀 Thank you for sharing that with me – and I do wish you all the best –
      Kathy

      Reply
  17. methinkstoo says

    April 30, 2014 at 3:08 am

    me thinks we fraid of unicorn. no like it. We read about a frendly painted pony like the rainbo an me we lovd it!
    that minds me … i wanna color. but we not hav any crayons & she wont get them for us. why she be mean anyway? Our lil boy has crayons but there r rules. those are his. no not ours. We want da spockly pens anyway. we lov your stories. make more. Pweez. An thank you too.

    Reply
  18. http://traumadissociation.wordpress.com says

    April 12, 2015 at 8:22 am

    Love this. The original Unicorn video has disappeared so reblogged this with a Discovery channel video of the Unicorn/deericorn
    http://traumadissociation.wordpress.com/2015/04/12/a-real-unicorn-a-post-for-child-alters/

    Reply
  19. Pilgrimchild says

    August 11, 2015 at 8:15 pm

    Is that unicorn for real? I thout unicorns look like horses.i didnt no they could look like deer.
    Shelly

    Reply
  20. StarryNight Journey says

    March 8, 2016 at 1:48 pm

    Reblogged this on StarryNight Journey and commented:

    I had my own unicorn, she was real, painfully real. Someone I trusted and was safe with. My unicorn was a symbol for hope. She couldn’t fix me but maybe help me believe in something everyone said couldn’t ever be done…find some relief to be ok. She is over her head, overwhelmed and pushing me away.

    Reply
  21. Lori says

    February 14, 2018 at 12:42 am

    Recently I’ve lost my husband of 31 years. I am told by my therapist that it will be a long time to get over such a loss. We all grieve differently and we all had a different connection with him. I am trying to find information on the situation. Everything I find is very vague and mostly deals with loss of oneself and not a loved espouse.. I know I’m a rare breed because most did do not stay married or have long-term relationships, because we are complex people could you please give me your thoughts and suggestions on the stress that I’m having.

    Reply

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